A Review of Before you Meet Prince Charming

My Thoughts

2009-07-17T21:47:00.000-07:00

I really think this whole book was horrible. It took me forever to even get through it. Towards the end I didn't even want to write about it anymore. Seriously I feel horrible for the Duggar girls and anyone else who is brought up to believe that they can't go to college or live on their own before marriage.
I follow the Bible but I don't pick and choose what suits me best. I take the Bible figuratively. It was just so hard to read.

That being said- I really would love to give a few suggestions about some books I love for young girls and teens

Meg Cabot writes the Princess Diaries series (You may have seen the movie) This was a great series.
She has started writing to young girls 8-11 now. I like those books too and she also writes adult novels.
All her books are great- they are fun and although sex is talked about in some of her young adult books if the character DO decide to 'have sex' it isn't rushed it is talked about and never really happens underage. But really you know that is what the world is now. Teens and 18 year olds have sex with their boyfriends. I choose to not have sex before marriage but you can sure as well know I will read a book with it in and NOT feel guilty.

Sarah Mally makes these girls feel like everything they do or think is wrong and I'm sorry I do not support her and will never ever read another book she wrote again. That being said if anyone wants to read Making Brothers and Sisters Best Friends by Sarah Stephen and Grace Mally go right ahead and write a review- I will not. It is 272 pages :)

Anyway. I hope you liked my reviews I am tired I wanted to get these done before I left for the weekend.

God Bless and remember God loves you even when you makes mistakes- like kiss before marriage ;)

Epilogue: After Years of Imagining

2009-07-10T05:27:00.000-07:00

The Story

The day was beautiful- it was the kind of a day for the princess. The princess was returning from one of her frequent trips to the various villages where she joyfully and kindly met the needs of many who were fainthearted, poor, injured, and troubled. She paid a special visit to Maiden Flirtelia and given counsel and encouragement to a girl named Simplicity whom she had met along the way. She did more but really we all know she is perfect.
When she came to the castle her father was waiting for her. Nothing was wrong all was well. She started talking about her day but the king wasn't listening. He was smiling, Someone had inquired of her. well guess what it was Sir Valiant. The princess felt a shiver surge through her. "yes, thou knowest I have met him several times" The king asks what she thinks of him and she said she never thought of it because he didn't want to be consumed in a dream. He asks again and she went on to say stuff like he is the bees knees or the bomb. I'm sorry that was the world talking. She said we was kind and stuff. Oh I'm cutting to the chase. I'm so sorry everyone of my readers but I can't do this anymore it is just so STUPID. I tried really They talk highly of the knight and Gods perfect timing. The gator wonders what is up and she said she really can't talk because she has much to do and doesn't need advice.. I think but I can't be sure but I think she implies that the gator is a cousin to the dragon. I don't know though.
The contest was a success and the king talked about the engagement at the concluding feast. The sward was won by Sir Honor.. Skip ahead again the princess and Sir Valiant arrived him from their honeymoon- even though they were a little warn out from the trip they were excited as ever. They talk about how God's timing was right They reminisce of what we all read already. Apparently it was love at first sight for the two of them. Because they chose to wait many other young maidens and squires chose to follow the example of Sir Valiant and his bride.. The story ends with this line-
And the alligator? Well he was not invited to the wedding.

I am leaving my thoughts on a new post.
Thanks for reading everyone :)

Chapter Twelve- Know that God Arranges Marriages

2009-07-10T05:26:00.001-07:00

There was a girl following my blog for like a day- She was a Fundamentalist and Before You Meet Prince Charming was her #2 fave book... sorry to scare you away dear but at 18 you should read critical reviews too. Anyway... we are all sad to see her go.

The Story

Sir Gallant is talking to the king about how many knights have been noticing his daughter because she is just so attractive, mature, friendly and ... unmarried. He suggests a contest to win her hand. It would be for loyal knights of the kingdom who prove himself worthy of her of course. We wouldn't want anyone actually just somewhat worthy. can't have a towns person. Hey not to go off topic but who was that kid the one with the sword? Everyone thought he was never going to pull it out of the stone and low and behold... ahhh can't think about Wart (the kid) and the sword in the stone. That would throw this story and Sarah's theory out the window.

The king paced back and forth and thought about it. Okay now this guy changed his mind and said it would be open to everyone of the kingdom. I'm all confused let me reread. I'm sorry I'm nearing the end of this story and I personally am confused. Yep Sarah changed it on the next page. Before it was for the worthy knights- one who would make a husband of stature and leadership. Oh well. Anyway they are going to have a contest with all forms of combat, many skills of the farm and craft, the ability to debate and concluding with a jousting match. Then there will be a great feast where the king will announce the winner. I wonder if the contest will have cotton candy. I love cotton candy. Do you think the princess eats cotton candy? Wow this story is getting to me. I also apologize I am no longer going word for word but I only have but a chapter and a epilogue and chapter 11 was stupid and I'm loosing interest. I personally can't wait to return this book back to this library and move on with my life.

The king said he would think about it overnight. At dinner, when the king told the idea to everyone the servants were intrigued, the princess was resistant and the queen was horrified. In the morning he said the contest will be held but the victor shall receive a silver sword with a golden hilt. The hand of the princess, however, shall be reserved for one of God's choosing. The contest was scheduled for the summer and there was interest all around the kingdom. There was one knight who was too busy and did not plan to participate. He also wasn't seeking recognition or fame.

So later in the summer the same knight who wasn't going to participate was riding his white horse with dignity and he meets up with the gator. The gator wants to know who he is and where he came from and the knight was all like are you the castle receptionist. What a jerk- the gator was NEVER mean to these people and they treat him like crap. Love all God's creatures my butt. It seems Gators are treated like junk. I cry for Steve Irwin. In fact NEVER give this book to Bindi Irwin who is turning 11 this month. Anyone know if she is a fundamentalist? I highly doubt it but PLEASE DON'T GIVE THIS BOOK TO BINDI!

They go on this thing about how there are no giants in the kingdom because the gator didn't see any and a dragon or two have visited on occasion. I have a question and maybe someone can answer it for me. I tried googling it. Are gators and dragons (Which there are not any only lizards called dragons- but we won't tell Sarah that) alot similar because Sarah must think they are. I know they are like in the same category but even a wild cat would eat a house cat ya know. Anyway the gator says the princess is a hopeless case if he is coming to win her hand ha ha. The gator also says that the knight should leave the dragons alone because they intend no harm and the knight says that reminds him of the dragon himself.
Anyway the knight goes into the courtyard and retreated to a private conference with the king to discuss the kingdom at length. They talk but he also had another matter he wanted to bring up with the king- the princess. I guess he always wanted to talk to her without disclosing his personal interest. He asked if her daughter would be at the upcoming contest. The king says she finds it an item of amusement but not of serious interest but needs to spend time in the villages because she knows there will be a war and that they will be under siege by an unseen enemy (?) Ummm okay then...
The knight gets all nervous and the king can sense it. Sir Valiant goes on about how there are lots of men in the kingdom interested in the princess. He said he is not as experienced, skilled, or noble as many other a knight but not to be too bold he wants to express interest in his daughter. He asks if he will accept his request and ask for her hand. The king is all like why ask for her hand. The knights goes on about how wonderful the princess is- you have all heard it before. So he talks to the queen and they decide there is no better knight.

Sarah's Advice

But How Will it Work for Me?

"How will I ever going to meet someone? How will we get to know each other? How will I know he is the right one?" Sarah has exciting news- God has a unique plan- you might call it an adventure-for each individual. It is a journey into the unknown. There are dangers; yet, as we have already discussed, there are safeguards. An adventure has a clear objective and destination, but the path to get there is uncertain and calls for careful navigation. It requires wisdom, skill, courage, faith, pain, hard work, and patience. every journey is different and in the same way is meeting Mr. Right. How you get to know him or even if it is God's will for you to marry at all is God's will. But that's what makes it exciting. The Lord loves to surprise us! His plan will most likely be different than what you have expected-but one day you'll be able to look back and see that it was perfect in every way

Coming Together

Okay this next part has a chart and it is pointless in this book but for you all here is Sarah's theory. Even though God has a plan for us he also has foundational principles that we can follow. Here is the chart:

We are spirit, soul and body. The spirit and physical are rivals (Gal. 5:16-17). The physical always wants to take charge and control us, but we must not let it dominate-especially in this area of relationships. The joining together of two people in marriage needs to happen in proper order: spiritual first, physical last. In the American system of dating as we know it today, young people think they can start with the physical. Often such relationships don't even get to the spiritual dimension at all. As you can see by the chart, God's ways and the world's ways are exactly opposite.

Now let's take this concept-of spirit first, then soul, then body-and think about how it might work as we come together with a life partner. Keep in Mind that the following suggested sequence is not a formula or a recipe, but simply a general guideline.

Here we go

Observe- As the Lord brings someone into your path who is of interest to you, your first step is not to show interest or get excited about him, but just to observe. It's good when parents can help with this too.

Acquainted as Casual Friends- If God desires to bring two people together, He will give opportunities for them to get to know each other in natural settings-at church, school, work, homes of friends, conferences, camps, Christian organizations, ministry projects or in one of God's other creative match-making situations (like a store or a ... Bar ha-ha). You don't need to date to get to know a person. You learn more about a person in real life situations. Anybody can act mature, romantic, and considerate on a date. (and of course Sarah would know this by all her many dates WHATEVER she never even went on a date!)

Young Man Takes Initiative- Okay don't laugh but it says when a young man (or a young man's father0 expresses interest, a new phase of the adventure suddenly begins. WOW a young man's father... interesting. Parents now play a key role in protecting your emotions They get to know the young man first. This will be a safeguard for your emotions. Sarah reminds us again that it is not an arranged marriage. Trust your parents- Sarah Mally trusts hers.

Okay Sarah says that men take the initiative because Christ sought the church to be His bride not vice versa. and in scripture men took wives. Women were given in marriage by their fathers. The man is to be the leader in the household. Women were created for man (I Cor. 11:9) So if the young man passes the test you now can build your friendship. It is ideal for the two families to becomes friends too.

Close Friendship- This is the exciting part of the adventure-but one still requiring much discernment, caution and patience. It is tempting to rush but don't do it! Keep your emotions in check until you really determine this man is the life partner God has for you. have convictions in place. Still talk to parents. Allow this phase to take as much time as necessary. It is important to know each other well. Do ministry jobs together. Discuss during the courtship period: your purpose in life, your future ministry goals, your doctrine, your convictions, your views of family and child raising, and your spiritual walk. But it is still best to avoid intimate talks until there is official engagement

Engagement- This is the home stretch toward marriage. Spend time together- you need to have long talks that engagement requires. Don't put yourself in tempting situations. There are lots of opportunities to be together while just going about normal daily activities. Continue to maintain close accountability with your parents, and purpose to avoid even the appearance of evil. Spend time in prayer. Note the chart.

Marriage- God's amazing plan, the two become one. As women, we were created to be our husbands' helpmeets. We need to remind ourselves frequently that our purpose in getting married is not to get, but rather to give. We can be assured that, as we follow God's calling and honor His design, His plan is what will bring us ultimate fulfillment and joy.

Bumps in the Road- I wanted to sum this up for you but I was confused and just well all I got out of it was not to avoid pain. We just want to avoid unnecessary pain-the kind that results from the dating system. She quotes Psalm 119:71)

Back to the Here and Now

What is the next step we take as we wait for Prince Charming? First of all, we should prepare ourselves to be future wives. and secondly, we should be focusing on our present ministry assignments.

Prepare

Sarah quotes II Timothy 2:20-21. the point of II Timothy is that if we cleanse our lives of what is common and dishonorable, we will be clean, useful, and prepared for the work God has for us. We will be the crystal and china-ready for the Master's special purposes!

How does this relate to marriage? Well, God is continually raising up new generations of men and women who are His servants, through whom He is accomplishing His work in the world. Even though they probably won't make many history books, they will be the truly great people in the world- and they will be in God's history book! Sarah mentions Hebrews 11. God wants to give great wives to great men.

Focus on Ministry- We have heard this a millions times and she quotes Matthew 6:33

I guess Sarah has observed dozens of young people who did not follow the world's system of dating. She talks abut them and their wonderful lives- she gives two testimonies and says she knows of other couples. I think the dozens is stretching it a bit sad to say. Sarah believes that the very best place for a single young lady to be is at home, under her fathers authority and direction. The world's system that encourages a time of "Independence" for young ladies is a dangerous and unbiblical idea. it makes the transfer from the "freedom" of singleness to the "responsibilities" of marriage strained and difficult

Poor Duggar girls :(

Sarah quotes Jer. 32:27

She goes on to say not to be discouraged and repeats herself a lot.

The suggested memory verse is

"Now unto Him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us, unto Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus throughout all ages, world without end. Amen." (Ephesians 3:20-21)

There is a Suggested Assignment

ONTO THE EPILOGUE!

Chapter Eleven- Delighting in the Lord

2009-07-10T05:25:00.000-07:00

The Story

There isn't much to this story. I can sum the 4 pages up in a paragraph.The gator asks the princess how she is doing lately. He apparently was ignored lately. The princess was sent flowers but not by Sir Eloquence but someone very special. I guess this secret man has been sending them to her nearly everyday now. The gator asks how they met and she said she has known Him for a very long time and they had a lovely time together today. She hasn't seem him today but she talked to him and he talked with her. She reminded Him that her life was committed to Him and that her heart belonged to Him. The gator asks if they are engaged and the princess says "Yes! I guess so!" the gator asks when the wedding is and the princess says that is for Him to decide. The princess has pledged her love to Him with her own free will. Okay let me cut to the chase of this whole back and forth chat. He sent her a love letter and He gave his life for her. Yes fellow readers the princess is in love with Jesus AKA God. Ya anyway so God sends her all the good stuff. An example is the love letter means the Bible. The princess goes on about how she was foolish to listen to the gator and that the gator lied to her about being alone forever. The princess goes on to say she is already deeply in love. The gator thinks the whole thing is nonsense-utter nonsense. The princess says not to seek out the temporary but what is eternal. How exciting this story is getting isn't it fellow readers ...

Sarah's Advice

The One Who is Sufficient

Sarah says whatever we desire in marriage, we have completely in the Lord. She gives us a list of the ways that the marriage relationship parallels and pictures the relationship God has designed for us to have with Christ:

Both relationships are permanent.

Both are intimate.

Both require waiting-waiting for a wedding, waiting for Christ's return.

Both are based on love and commitment.

In both, the two become one-husband and wife become one flesh; those who are saved become members of Christ's body (Eph. 5:29-31, John 17:21).

Both are covenants and formed by vows Marriage- "I do" Salvation-"If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus (Rom. 10:9)

Both are exclusive. They are not shared by another-no adultery, no idolatry.

Both have a starting moment. When you were born in the world, you were neither married nor saved. Marriage requires a ceremony; salvation requires a decision.

Both relationships make us complete

Both have a wedding/marriage supper-a wedding banquet on earth, the marriage supper of the Lamb in heaven (Rev. 19).

Both are sealed with a sign-marriage with a ring, salvation with the Holy Spirit.

Both have an authority structure, a head to the relationship to whom the other desires to submit-the wife submits to her husband as the believer submits to Christ.

In both, even though there is an authority structure, the relationship is based on a friendship-" I have called you friends" (John 15:15)

In both, the groom must leave his home. Christ left His Father in order to come to earth and win His bride. A man will leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife (Eph.5:31)

In both relationships, the head is the initiator.

Both require a sacrificial love on the part of the head. A husband is commanded to love as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it (Eph. 5:25)

In both, the head is the provider and protector.

In both, the husband prepares a residence-a man provides a home on earth, Christ provides a home in heaven.

In both relationships, the bride becomes beautiful by a submissive spirit and inner qualities of godliness (I Peter 3:1-6)

In both, the bride's exclusive desire is to please and serve her head.

In both, the bride becomes radiant with joy

Both relationships grow sweeter with time.

In both relationships, each owns the other. "I an my beloved 's and my beloved is mine" (Song of Sol. 6:3, I Cor. 7:4)

In both relationships, each fills the other's heart (Psalm 139:17, Col. 1 :27)

Both relationships provide a "satisfaction" that can be found nowhere else. We are satisfied by a relationship with God and by being in His presence. Likewise, we are satisfied by our spouse, even just by being in their presence.

Sarah goes on to say we dream of our wedding day but the Lord continues to remind us we should be excited about Him-knowing, serving, and being with Him. Then she quotes Tit. 2:13.

How to Fall in Love with Jesus

Spend Time Alone with Him- Spend time alone with Jesus and you will experience the joy of falling in love with Him. Arrange time alone with him like the princess did. The princess spent the afternoon fellowshipping with her heavenly Father. Pour out your heart to the Lord and listen to what her says. She quotes Psalm 27:4)

Learn to Get to Know Him- She quotes Jer. 9:23-24), Seek to know the ways of the Lord. Learn to love what He loves and to hate what He hates. Be interested in the things He tells you. Never forget He delights in your prayers and that He is concerned about the smallest detail of your life.

Treasure His Love Letter to You-God's Word is more valuable and precious than any earthly love letter. Read it every day. Re-read it. The letter gets better every time! Memorize it. Meditate on it day and night. Apply it to your life. She quotes Psalm 119:97, 103.

Understand What He has Done for You- I'll sum this up ;) Jesus died for us and that is cool. Jesus rescued us! Col. 1:13-14 is quoted.

Frequently Tell Him of Your Love- God loves to hear your voice! Remind Him often of your love and desire to always be loyal to Him. Of course he already knows, but tell Him anyway. Talk to him every chance you get. She quotes Proverbs 15:8

Demonstrate Your Love by Your Actions- Sarah quotes I John 3:18. If we truly love Him, we will obey His commandments. We will joyfully pour out our lives for His sake, and our deepest desire will bring Him glory.

Tell Other About His Greatness- Tell everyone of Christ's greatness and if someone says something bad about him- defend him. She quotes Psalm 71:15

Worship Him- Psalm 29:2 and Psalm 16:11 are mentioned pretty much says it all in the title worship him :)

Be Attentive to The Gifts He Gives You- Jas 1:17 is quoted. Don't take Gods blessings for granted. take time to notice God and his loving kindness. Give thanks

Keep Journals of you Times Together- Write letters and songs to the Lord Write how awesome he is and stuff- Psalm 103:2 is quoted

Run into His Arms Whenever You Need Comfort- Is. 30:18 and Psalm 63:8 The struggles and hurts we have are there to direct us to the Lord. He longs to comfort you. Learn to run into his open arms and find love, security and intimacy for which you long.

Sarah says this is all so delightful to the Lord and quotes Psalm 73:25

The Memory Verse is "Delight thyself also in the Lord; and He shall give thee the desires of thine heart" Psalm 37:4

There is a assignment and testimony

Chapter Ten- Reserved for One

2009-07-09T21:30:00.000-07:00

The Story

"Well, Well. Here is the pitiful little princess coming back from the village," the alligator's cocky voice rang out as he sunned himself on the shore. "Pitiful? Is that what thou thinkest of me?" asked the princess as Victory came to a stop. " I may be an acorn who needs to learn to die, and a rose who must stay closed until the proper time, but you do not need to feel sorry for me. If I could plan my own life, I would choose it to be no other way." "You will continue, then to tolerate your predicament of peril and distress?" questioned the alligator. The princess is confused by what the aligator means by peril and distress and the gator answers that it is the state of all unwed daughters. The gator then smirks.

The princess neither answered or smiled so the gator continued: "When your nonexistent hero does show up, he will think that because you have never been kissed, never been loved, never been swept off your feet, that apparently you are not worth the effort. No one has sought after you before-so why should he? Thou wilt be looked upon as a second-class, unwanted maiden."

"As far as I am concerned, any fellow who thinks that way may just as well go after some other maiden who is more loveable, more popular, more easily caught- and who already has given her heart to a dozen other Prince Charmings," she said stroking Victory's mane. " Listen to me for once," said the alligator in a more serious tone."You say you will be pure-and perhaps you will be, living in this sheltered little prision. But, I tell you, your dreams will be shattered when you learn the magnificent knight hath not done the same. Do you see? You live in a changing world; there is not even one man alive who has saved himself for you. Search the whole world and I guarantee it, you will not find a single one." "Even if you prove to be right, even if no true gentlemen yet exist, I still choose that way of purity. It is not an earthly knight for whom I ultimately save myself, but a heavenly One." "Fine with me. Why should I care?" retorted the gator. "I am going swimminh."

The princess then went inside and sat down on the velvet cushion in her favorite window seat and opened her Bible. The sun shown on itas she opened to Psalms and tried to read but she soon found herself daydreaming of Prince Charming. She wondered if he would ever come, or if the gator was right, or if no godly man exist. Unable to concentrate she closed her bible and went about her normal activities. That night she lie wide awake. Even though she knew the gator was a lier, she could not seem to forget his words, and fearful thoughts about her future floded her mind. Signing deeply and wiping a tear from her eyes, she decided to talk to her parents. Sometimes she felt uncomfortable discussing her struggles with them, but she always felt better afterwards. I'm not going to really go into too mcuh detail because Sarah explains the scenes and what the princess is dressed in. I personally could care less the story needs to finish sometime so anyway she goes to ses her parents and the guard smiles at her (why did that need to be added? because she is so loved?) Her parents have their own quarters and when she got there they were still awake talking (Is this what it is like in the Duggar home when the children come in to share their hearts?) Her parents are wondering if something is bothering her because she was quiet during dinner. The princess tells her parents about the recent chat with the gator. The king says there are many lies from many voices and not to listen to him. Thats what I don't get either. Why does the princess CONTINUE to go to the gator if he is telling her lies? I mean really if she doesn't like her FRIEND the gator sdhe should just stay away. Am I right? The king says something about I Kings 19: 14-18. The princess thinks the liers are hiding because she has not met many knights. The queen tells her not to be discurraged by all the imperfect young men because after all it takes only one to get married. They continue saying the gator is lying about a knight not wanting a pure princess. But I guess a knight does a true gentleman wants to your hear. He does not want a princess to come running up to him and pour out freely. He wants to earn respect and admiration, but you must give him the chance to try.

The queen then says "It is not such a changing world as the gator wants you to believe. Wickedness has thrived since the beginning of history. Young ladies have been trying to chase after boys since the time of Genesis. By their anxiousness, they drive away the very men they would most like to catch. But the ones who are patient-who are willing to be soght after, who are willing to be a rosebud closed until the proper time-they are the most appealing, the most beautiful, the most treasured."

"And it is the same way for the men," her father added. "We must show patience as well. Think of how utterly foolish it would be if one went through the whole garden opening flowers one by one, trying to enjoy the fragrance of all of them, and pulling apart each bud. Would they not be ruined?"

"God created mysery," explained her mother, as she gently pushed back the hair that was falling in the princess's face. "Things must be discovered. The most valuable treasures come through waiting. The mystery is part of the excitement. Many young ladies are far too ready to open their hearts before the time is right." "Wait for the one who will fully appreaciate the gift you have saved for him," the king advised.

"Guard your heart until you find the one to whom it may be wholly entrusted, "The queen added. "Allow your hero the privilege of winning thy hand. In the end, he will value you more." "And remember," said her father, placing his arm around her shoulders, "that you are set aprat, first and foremost, for your heavenly Father-who loves and treasures you more than any knight ever could. Continue to delight thyself in His love."

Sarah's Advice

A Purity So Bright the World Marvels

Sarah tells a story about how her mom said how wonderful it would be to save her first kiss for her wedding day. She wishes she did. So that what Sarah is doing-savig her first kiss for her wedding- just like Josh and Anna. Sarah says that your first kiss is one of the most valuable gifts you can give. Save it. Treasure it.

The Cake

There a story of a cake and someone taking a piece from it... it is now ruined...

Sarah then brings up Proverbs 31:12. She says one of the best ways that you can do good to your future husband today, even if you don't know him yet, is by protecting your heart so that it will be completely his. Your heart is a priceless treasure that you are saving foe one. How will your future husband feel is you have already given pieces of your heart to others and can offer him only a party-eaten cake? (It is not a real cake it is a medafor) He wants a cake baked just for him, not one with pieces missing that others have tasted first. He wants the whole thing-not just part. One day you will long to give him your whole heart-but in order to give it later, you must protect it now.

Emotional Purity

I am putting in a disclamir again. This book is repetitive so excuse me if I do not write out every thought Sarah has but just give you the just. I feel bad but it is nearing the end and I don't want carpel tunnel haha.

Being reserved for one includes not only physical purity but emotional purity as well. This reqires guarding our hearts, our minds, our thoughts, our words, our emotions, and our eyes. It means saving that close, intimate friendship for one man only, avoiding premature emotional attachments, and staying free from the intimate binds that can form so easily, but are painful to dissolve. Emotional purity includes guarding our eyes from those "fun" romantic glances and stares, keeping our hearts from being poured out until the right time, and taking captive thoughts that want torun wild with fantasies and dreams.

Sarah says we see this concept throughout the Bible. Holiness means "being reserved for one." She then goes on to alk about Rebekah reserving her heart for Issac the way the church does for Christ in Genesis 24:16. I'll do the King James Version And the damsel was very fair to look upon, a virgin, neither had any man known her: and she went down to the well, and filled her pitcher, and came up. and then if that made no sense here is the New American Standard Version The girl was very beautiful, a virgin, and no man had had relations with her; and she went down to the spring and filled her jar and came up
Just for your reference.
Emotional Purity is hardly even considered possible in our present society. But think of it this way: How would your future husband feel if he knew that some other guy had known your deepest thoughts, dreams, fears, and emotions? What would he think if some other man had known you even better than he himself knows you? Or how would you like if some other girl had dozons of long, deep, intimate conversations with your husband and knew pratically everything there was to know about him? Sarah says to save all your "firsts" not just your first "kiss". Some girls think casually and think they might be having fun now but how will that affect their marriages later? Her eis a list of some meaningful "firsts" that could happen and should be shared with that special someone:

First expression of interest

First words of affection or love

First gift given or recieved

First romantic look into his eyes

First trip together

First special song, place, event, or memory

First ring

First dinner date

First personal letter expressing emotions

First "I love you"

First piece of your heart given

First serious or ongoing correspondence with a young man

First special affectionate nicknames or actions

First kiss

That is not a list of rules but a list to make you think. Many young people seem to want to get close to the line as possible and still remin pure. But looking atr the big picture of our livesought to motivate us to have the opposite perspective. The question is how much can I save foe him, how many little specialand meaningful "firsts" will I have to share with him? It is not that we are mearly trying to avoid the worst, but rather that we desire to achive the best!

The Gift

Sarah has to continue to drill it in our heads to remain pure so she has this what if story about the king giving you gift that you have to be careful with. You have to give the gift to someone special, at the right time and it is easily damaged. You notice others are not doing what the king has told (the servants no doubt). This other dude is protecting his gift and you exchange yours and it was meant for you two all along. The "gift" is "the first time". It is all the many different assortments of "first times" that are part of a romatic love relationship that God brings together for marriage. "First times" are special, but a "first time" ocurs only once. This gift is also called purity. Purity is destoyed by the premature use of "first times," and with it is lost the very best gift one can ever give a spouse.

Does it Belong to You?

Many young people ask if "such and such" kind of affection is okay. Sarah thinks the question ought to be "Does this affection belong to me? If they are not married, the answer is no. It is not theirs to give or theirs to recieve. It does not belong to them. Sarah asks, "Did you know that we do not own ourselves?" We belong to two individuals: to God and our mate, or our future mate (I Cor. 6:19-20,7:4). She goes on to say kissing a boy is taking something like stealing. stealing a first you are stealing away from future wives and husbands. Deb Her you go this is what she says next The Bible calls this defrauding. (I Cor. 7:1), I Thess. 4:1-7)Defrauding is decieving or taking advantage of someone. Young people do it all the time in their dating relationships. Sarah gfoes on to say "we as young ladies do exactly the same thing. We are flattered when a young man gives us attention and are often tempted to lead him on even when we know we'd never be interested in marrying him. Defrauding can also take place when we dress in a way to get attention for ourselves. We most likely don't intend any harm to guys; we;re simplyy following the patternes of the world. Yet many of the fashions of the world are sensual and immodest. By dressing immodestly and causing him to notice us, we are stirring up desires in him that we are not able to righteously fulfill. This is defrauding. It is selfish. It is the opposite of true love.

The Bigger Picture

We as humans frequently make the mistake of basing our actions on our present feelings than thinking of the future outcome. This can have lifelong consequences. We should step back and look at the big picture. It takes some effort and a lot of patience, but the rewards are worth it.

But Can it Be Done?

Purity is possible! God always gives the power and stength to fulfill His commands. Some people save their first kisses and even their first touch and everyone Sarah has talked to has said "it was worth the wait" Sarah wants to explain one more thing about pupose of purity. She has meantioned the pain and heartache but our goal in life should not be simply to avoid pain. Our primary motivation must be to please God. Immorality os sin. We must have a resolute commitment to purity because God commands it (I Cor. 6:18-20) We will stand before God one day and it should be our deepest desire to please him. The second reason we should desire purity is not to avoid loss, but to achive gain. Of course it's difficult. But think of what you will gain. Imagine the rewards> Here are just two of the incredible treasures attained by purity:

The conditions for the best marriage!
A powerful testimony! In this generation of darkness, you will be a shining example of the purity God intends. Your bright light will not go unnoticed.

What is I Already Messed Up?

Even if you screwed up all things are possible with God. The God we serve is a God of forgiveness and a God of second chances. He is able to heal the deepest wounds and change the hardest hearts. Many have failed but who have truly and fully repented of their sin are now the ones who have the strongest testimonies and the most powerful life messages to others. I know a number of couples who, despite many past scars, have wonderful marriages today (Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar)

She gives TONS of Bible examples-

Woman who was caught in adultery (John 8:1-11)
Samaritan woman (John 4:39)

Mary Magdalene (John 20:1-18)

Bathsheba (II Sam.11) (Prov. 1:8; 4:3-4) (Proverbs 31)

Rahab (Josh. 2-6)

Ruth- Boaz was a descendant Matthew 1:5 part of the royal line

She then quotes II Cor. 5-17. I'm sorry I wasn't going to type the 1 1/2 page summary of the stories and her fundamentalist view of it. Sarah says to repent

Tooth Decay

Some crap about tooth decay. I'll get to the point. Sarah suggests you examine your life for any decay that needs to be removed. If you have sin you have been hiding from your parents, confess it.

To be a vessel the Lord can fully use, our relationship with him must be unhindered. We are in a spiritual war. The enemy is prowling around as a hungry lion seeking those he must destroy. We must be on our guard, allow no compromise, and seek His best in every area. Sarah is writing this book believing that you are one who has chosen the way of wisdom. Proverbs exhorts us that it is beneficial to instruct those who are wise because, even though it is difficult, they will be able to relieve instruction and increase in wisdom. The Lord never fails to give us strength.

Make a commitment that from this day forward you will keep yourself pure as a clean vessel of Jesus Christ. He is waiting for you to come to Him. He is ready to forgive and cleanse. He knows the plans He has for you- to bless you and to give you a hope and a future (Jer. 29:11, Rom. 8:32)

Suggested Memory Verse:

"For this is the will of God, Even you sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: that every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honor" (I Thessalonians 4:3-4)

There is a suggested assignment and a testimony... on to Chapter 11

Chapter Nine- Dreams Must Die

2009-07-09T18:38:00.000-07:00

The Story
I was worried about reading this chapter actually. I have a few more chapters and then the epilogue. I work the next 3 days but I really want to get these done so they might get done sooner than you think :) Keep checking back I can't tell anymore on TWOP or the Discovery website that I updated. They get mad.

The story starts up again with the Princess on her balcony taking several hours in thought and prayer. She had many memories of special times of prayer alone there on that balcony. Really I don't care do you? Lets get to the point of the story ha ha. As she listened to the birds and felt the gentle breeze, she was vividly reminded of what she already knew-that her life was not her own, for she had been bought with a price. As she sat there she made an important decision in her heart- regardless of the cost, she must take the higher road. With renewed zeal, she once again dedicated her life, her time, and her future to her heavenly father and whatever work He saw fit to give her. She couldn't wait to tell her father she had chosen not to go to the Merchants' Fest but serve her Master with greater fervor than ever before.
The princess had learned that when one struggle is overcome, the next one is usually around the corner. She was hurrying through the courtyard hopping to find her father but she encountered the last person she have ever expected- Sir Valiant. He just had a lengthy conversation with the king and was mounting his horse to depart from the castle. He was dedicated in his service to the king. The princess stopped suddenly and cheerfully exclaimed, "Oh, hello!" Though her voice was calm, her heart was trembling, and dozens of questions raced through her mind- what should I say? Shall I introduce myself? Why is he here? Does he know who I am?
Sir Valiant dismounted his horse and said, "Oh, and you must be the king's daughter? I have heard so much about you. Many in the village speak of thy virtue and kindness." Okay I personally think that the villagers don't speak highly of the princess behind closed doors. The princess laughed and replied, "Oh , well, I have heard about you as well. My father says thou art among his most trustworthy knights. He deeply values thy loyal service." So the princess thinks the knight is looking more handsome and radiant than ever as he stood in the bright sunlight. I guess Sarah says if the princess could see her own face she would see the brightness on her own face. Sarah thinks it is a good thing that the princess did not realize that her beauty was only becoming more and more radiant with time.
They didn't talk long but as the princess waved goodbye she felt as though her heart would burst, She had never felt that way before. She turned and went in the palace to see the king. So in her excitement she forgot to tell the king what she was going to tell him. Now she was having a host of new thoughts. She entered and saw the king talking to the queen. She asked a lot about Sir Valiant- like when he would be back and stuff. The king knew what the princess was thinking I guess just by the look on her face when she came in. She wanted to ask him all these other questions like how he would like him for a son-in-law but she thought she better not.
The princess was excited all week wondering when the knight would return and she would be able to get to know him better. But soon daily life had set in and she started to wonder why she was so quick to imagine that he was the one for her. Surly she had been foolish to entertain such thoughts. Okay I think it is FINE to have those emotions but whatever... I would be a villager.
Diligently, the princess gave herself to eternal things-sewing clothes for the poor, spending time with the orphans, representing her father at important gatherings, and providing much hospitality for guests and ambassadors visiting the castle. The princess again was getting tired of waiting. The months were dragging by and she was finding herself discouraged. She thought of what the gator said and wondered if her dream she was waiting for would ever come true.
After finishing dinner one cloudy evening, the princess decided to take a walk along the path that went past the courtyard, through the vineyard, and along the edge of the forest outside the castle. So many questions troubled her. So many fears found their way into her thoughts. She remembered the afternoon out on the balcony only six months earlier. She had been so excited about living each day to the fullest, so determined to be content, no matter what. Now it felt as if she had been waiting forever.
She thought the knight was so handsome and perfect how could she not notice him? All her dreams rushed back fresh and new- love letters, romantic walks by starlight, a diamond ring, a glorious wedding, staring into her princes eyes, being held tightly in his arms, being a mother, and oh, her longings were almost too overwhelming for her to bear. She then heard soft footsteps of her mother. The princess waited but said nothing, telling herself that she was determined not to start crying. Her mother knew exactly what she was feeling, as mothers usually do and gently asked if everything was alright. The princess goes on how she had decided years ago that she had a purpose in life much bigger than marriage and she would be gladly stay single if her heavenly Father asked that of her. She was praying to be patient and content and low and behold Sir Valiant came to visit and it made everything harder. She just can't understand why she can't learn to trust and why she is so easily distracted and why it has to be so difficult.
Her mother says that, "Struggles are a necessary part of life. They strengthen us and prepare us for new trials that lie ahead. When one struggle is overcome, another is often around the next bend. The princess goes on, "I suppose. But Mother, I feel like I am failing in each struggle, not overcoming them." The queen goes on to say that the princess is growing and learning. She tells her that the very things the struggle is designed to accomplish in your life. The princess shouldn't forget that except a corn of wheat fall into the ground and die, it abideth alone: but if it die, it bringth forth much fruit." The princess says she wants to bear fruit and the queen then replied, "The your dream must die."
The princess then says, "But my dream is a good dream, not a bad dream. It is the dream God has given me. It is nothing wicked I desire, but only what is natural, wholesome, and beautiful. Why must it die?" Her mother stepped off the path, knelt down, picked up an acorn, and explained, "Observe this acorn, Perfectly designed for what it is intended to do-die. The acorn does not know why; the acorn does not understand what is ahead, but only if it is buried in the cold and dark earth-forgotten and left alone-does it fulfill its purpose and become what it was created to be. Would the acorn ever have imagined that it would become the beautiful oak tree you see before you? Not in its wildest dreams. when you admire the oak tree, do you morn the loss of the acorn? Of course not. By losing its life, the acorn becomes something so much greater, so much more beautiful, so much more valuable. The death is forgotten. The fruit is remembered. Nevertheless, death was required."

Sarah's Advice
*** There are no cartoons in this chapter- your dreams of seeing them on this page... must die :)

Intense Desires

The Lord has given young ladies the desire to be married. this is a good desire- a God-given desire. Most of us will get married someday, and we can be grateful that the Lord has given us a longing for the very thing He has called us to do. All the same, marriage is not our ultimate goal. A husband is not what will make us happy, and marriage is not what will bring true fulfillment in life. Even girls who are very young are often led to believe that a boyfriend is what will make them happy.
Sarah then tells a story about her friend She was 11 and the little girl was 9 and wanted a boyfriend. Sarah said even though she was young she knew her life was missing something. The little girl need to know that Jesus Christ was the only One who could fill that void i her heart. Sara goes on to say that in the same way, when we have unfulfilled longings in our lives, we often look in the wrong places for help. We think that happiness will be found when all our "wants" have been obtained. Thus, we spend our lives attempting to have our desires met, our dreams fulfilled, and our wishes come to pass. But instead of seeking after these "wants" the Lord gives us some radically different guidance. As usual, God's thinking and the world's thinking are exactly opposite. The World says, "follow your dreams. Seek whatever will make you happy." God says, "Surrender everything and count it gain" (Luke 14:33, 18:29-30). the world says, "You deserve to get what you want." God says, "Whoever loses his life, finds it" (Matthew 16:25).
As single ladies it's important to realize that a husband will not make us happy. Nor is marriage a right that God is "supposed" to give us. Marriage is a gift. Moreover, our purpose in getting married must not be to get, but rather to give. While we are on this earth, we will experience unfulfilled longings (Rom. 8:23). God intends for these desires to draw us to himself. The Lord knows that He is the only One who can satisfy our hearts. He completes us. He wants us to know and experience the reality that He is enough. He desires that we learn unconditional surrender.

The Greatest Exchange

Surrender is a daily part of the Christian life. The Lord is jealous for us with a godly Jealousy and desires to have first place in every area of our hearts (Ex. 34:14). He will quickly as us to surrender any possession, person, interest, career, activity, or dream that begins to take priority. Sometimes he gives our dreams back; sometimes He doesn't. It is His intense love, His desire for our ultimate happiness, and His understanding of what will bring forth the most fruit, that necessitates this pruning- which may appear to us unmerciful, unfair, and painful. Sarah wrote all her 'dreams' on pieces of paper, ripped them up, and surrounded them to the Lord. She quotes II Cor. 4:17-18 and Philippians 3:8.

Shattered Dreams

It is not only our sin and wrong desires that God asks us to give up. He asks for everything. Every part of our heart. Every Area of our life. Since he wants to have first place, the Lord will ask us to surrender anything that hinders our relationship with Him. It is not just the big areas He requests, but also the very smallest. A life of surrender is the sweetest one possible, while a life of stubbornness and unwillingness to yield is the most miserable. Yet, so many times we are slow to submit and enter into the freedom and rest God wants to give. When it seems hard pause and remember the One whom you are surrendering to. Don't dwell on the personal sacrifice, but rather consider the perfect faithfulness, loving-kindness, power and beauty of the One who alone can satisfy us completely. Consider what he has given for us and how much He deserves. When our mind is staying upon Him. surrender becomes an act of pure joy. She the quotes Mt 13:44.

When Dying is True Living

Sarah asks if you were willing to die for your faith, would you be willing to lay down your life? She assumes most of us would die for Christ but she fears that we are not so willing to live for Christ. If we died today we would never get married, raise a family or see any of our earthly dreams come to pass. We would understand this to be part of the sacrifice. We would be given our lives. That would mean everything. She asks then, "are we willing to live our lives on earth and still sacrifice these same dreams and desires? Are we willing to joyfully stay single if that is what God asks us to do? To die to self? to count everything a loss in order to gain Christ. Sometimes we are quick to surrender the big things but when it comes to the little, daily things, such as surrendering our friendships, forgiving a neighbor, or yielding what we want to do in order to serve others, we're not ready to submit. Any sacrifice we make to the Lord is not a loss but a gain. We have been called to die that we might truly live, to lose our life that we might win it, to decrease that He might increase, and to surrender that we might gain the ultimate victory. After all, we are not our own. We have been bought with a price. She quotes Romans 9:20-21 and John 12:24
The suggested memory verse is
"For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for My sake shall find it" (Matthew 16:25)
there is a suggested assignment... as always.

Chapter Eight- Have a Life Purpose Bigger than Marriage

2009-07-07T06:45:00.000-07:00

The Story

We continue the story with the gator and the princess. The gator informs us the princess did not go to the Merchants' Fest but has listened to her fathers old-fashioned ideas. He says he keeps trying to help her out but the princess is never willing to listen. He says she will be eighty years old still sitting around dreaming of her Prince Charming. The princess insists she is not listening to him and will not be governed by fear (but she will be governed by her father?) no matter how many fiery darts the gator throws at her, The princess makes the gator laugh because she is getting feisty. He asks her what she will do since she is not going to the Fest- "sit here and cry?" "I do not know," The princess signed.

Enter the king. He says to the princess (he couldn't help overhearing) her problem is her life is not filled with what is most important so she is falling into despair and self-pity. However, she should take courage for she is doing well. He goes on to say that she only has a short time of singleness life and she should use it wisely. The work she is doing is just as important as the work of the bravest knights in the kingdom only instead of using a sword of metal she uses one of gentle words and helpful hands. She should life up a banner of truth and conviction and it will attract the young ladies of honor. They are the princesses work. She should train the young ladies of the kingdom, the future mothers and wives-the heart, beauty, and soul of the kingdom. She should continue to charge and fight the good fight and not give up when it is hard. She should also persevere and never forget the One who is a rewarder of all who seek him. Okay I have to put my two cents in- this sounds like what Sarah Mally is doing herself- she is teaching the future mothers of the world.

The princess loves her fathers speech and thinks he should tell the whole kingdom. She smiles and says she will try to do as he says because it is truly her desire. She tries to tell the gator about his foolish threats but apparently he disappears whenever the king is nearby. Heck I would leave too and besides maybe the gator had a lunch appointment or something- gators are busy too! Okay sorry I just love that's gator

Back to the story a king's servant comes up and says that a knight is outside requesting to see him. WOW THAT WAS QUICK! The king says he will be happy to meet with him and the servant should escort him to the Great Hall.. The king gives her princess a hug and goes inside to meet the knight who is none other than- Sir Valiant (I really could not see this coming ha ha). I have to add this because I laughed. I don't know why I laughed... anyway. Sir Valiant respectful goes, "My lord, the king" and is on bended knee. I think the king will be impressed by that move. Pretty slick there Sir Valiant. The king is all happy to see the knight and wants to know why he is there. They talk a bunch of Old English and finally get to the point that the kingdom is in trouble because there is two enemies invading the land- a dragon and a giant. But they are no ordinary dragon and no ordinary giant. Sir Valiant is confident the king already knows of them (Then why is he telling the king if the king already knows? Lets read on and see...). I guess they will do great damage. The king who I said before is not the brightest crayon in the box wants to know which dragon and giant. Sir Valiant replies that it is the dragon called Lies and the giant names Temptation. The dragon's very breath is venomous. He lurks from village to village in the darkness, poisoning people with his deceptions. Some get eaten alive. Believing his words, they are straightway snatched in one bite between his sharp teeth. Others are not immediately taken in; nevertheless, sooner or later, because they do not resist him, they are squeezed in the coil of his tail. Many a village hath been set ablaze by his fiery words-coming from the flames of hell. They kindle false concepts in house after house, and as these spread through the village they leave whole families unprotected.

"If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do?" said the king , quoting the eleventh Psalm. Sir Valiant continues to talk about the giant. the giant is ruining entire towns with his lusts. He stirs up men's appetites during the day, and in the evening he swings his club. It is a magical weapon that appears not as a club but as many forms of enticing attractions. At first they are painless, but soon they bring grief, bitterness, guilt, and destruction. Sir Valiant thinks that although he has fought many enemies that the giant and dragon are formidable indeed and he has come for the kins counsel. The king paced back and forth while in deep thought and then spoke. "When the enemy attacks with force, a banner must be lifted up. A standard of truth, a banner of righteousness, a flag calling men to action. A standard to mobilize the men of conviction, the men of God." Sir Valiant replies that the dragon can't face truth and will flee and the giant loves darkness and will retreat from the light. He then says the kings counsel is good. The truth must be proclaimed. Leaders must be trained. Anyone else think this knight is a suck-up?

The king thinks that the knight is a faithful warrior and should be rewarded. The most able knights and squires will be found in the kingdom shall be at his command. Sir Valiant says he will go search out the best in the kingdom. There is this weird paragraph from the king about how he is brave and how he should train young men of the kingdom to be future fathers and husbands- heads of marriages, the foundation of families, and the strength of the kingdom. He says Sir Valiant should fight the good fight. It is pretty much what he told his daughter. This part of the story ends by Sir Valiant replying that the whole kingdom should hear his wisdom and he will do what the king commands.

Sarah's Advice

A Purpose Worth Living For

God does desire for us to be happy, but our focus should not be trying to be happy, but on doing God's will-which brings true happiness.. Don't focus on your own needs but others. AKA The O is J-O-Y.

The Potential of Your Youth

If your single years are spent simply waiting around for Prince Charming, feeling sorry for yourself, and dreaming of being married, your life will be miserable. But if your fays are spent serving the Lord, each day will only get sweeter as you abide in His presence, more joyous as you see His plans for you unfold, and the more fulfilling as you learn that it is more blessed to give than to receive (Acts 20:35).

Teenagers today seem to have the idea that the teen years are a time when it's okay to be irresponsible. Many parents seem to expect that these years will be full of problems, rebellion, and struggles. This mindset is completely opposite to what the Lord desires our teen years to be like. She quotes I Timothy 4:12. The years of our youth are some of the most valuable ones of your life. If you catch a vision for how for how much potential these years have for the Lord, you will begin to feel that your life is a race-a race against time to accomplish as much as you possibly can for the kingdom of God. Once the years are gone- they are gone forever. Remember also that your youth will determine your future. The decisions you make now will affect your entire life. Not only are these years valuable, but they are also powerful. The world will often listen to young people more quickly than they will listen to adults. Mature and wise youths stand out in today's culture; They are noticed and their voice is heard. Devote yourself to the work of the Lord and realize your power. They do not yet have the responsibilities of marriage; you have energy; you have time. You will develop diligence. Learn to rise early, to establish good personal disciplines, and to use each minute wisely in order to do as much as you can to further Christ's kingdom! Do not waste this time of singleness! She quotes I cor. 7:34-35. Sarah was 26 when this book was written and she was enjoying her singleness then at 30 she still is. So what about those young girls who never marry? There is no need to fear a life of singleness. Rather, we can be excited to know that if it is God's plan for us to be single, He is calling us to some special ministry for the Lord. Therefore, in that sense, singleness is a gift that is very profitable and fulfilling. Remember also that many who are married are unhappily married. Marriage, in and of itself, is not what gives purpose and meaning in life, but rather fulfillment comes from walking with and serving the Lord.

Run the Race With Perseverance

Run the race for God's glory. Keep doing stuff for others. Time is short (didn't I read that before?") (Heb. 12:1-2, Eph 5:16. Acts 20:24). Have a plan if you don't you won't go anywhere, Don't give up. Fix your eyes on the finish line. She mentions Proverbs 24:10 and I Thess. 5:24 in this paragraph.

Your Life Purpose

Without a purpose in life we wander aimlessly, either allowing slothfulness to take control or finding ourselves "busy" but accomplishing very little. Maybe you are confused about your life and have no idea what the Lord's plan is for you. (isn't this book for pre-teens?). Walk by faith- trusting the Lord with all our heart, acknowledging Him, and knowing He will direct our Paths. It requires obedience on our part. Obey now and you will reap the rewards later. Even though most young ladies want to be mothers. Which is Nobel Sarah says you must have a life purpose bigger than marriage. If you don't, you won't be fully prepared for marriage. Of course, Sarah doesn't mean just any "life purpose". She is definitely not referring to seeking after a career. Our culture, driven by the modern feminist movement, is pressuring us as girls to be successful in the world's eyes, get graduate degrees, be independent, move up in the business world, have small families, and do men's work. This standard of success that the world pushes does not compare to the calling God has for our lives as wives and mothers. God made us to be helpers to our husbands and to bear and train little ones for the kingdom of God. This is far more important and fulfilling than any career could ever be. So what does Sarah really mean by "a life purpose bigger than marriage"? She means that our life purpose must be to serve the Lord, to give our entire lives to Him, and to bear much eternal fruit in order to bring God glory (John 15:8). Unless we are focused on this "great work" (Neh. 6:3) for god, we will never be fulfilled in either singleness or marriage. There are many people God brings into our paths each day who desperately need the gospel, teaching, and encouragement. Purpose to have a ministry mindset everywhere you go. We should minister to people through a tract, a smile, a kind word, a bible verse or a personal testimony

In conclusion to this chapter, here are five main points to remember:

Your youth can be a productive time. When Jesus was twelve, He was already focused on being about His heavenly Father's business (Luke 2:49)

Be Successful in singleness, how can you ever expect to be successful in the new trials and challenges that marriage will bring? (Mt. 25:23)

Ministry will prepare you for marriage. In more ways than you can imagine, serving the Lord now will prepare and equip you one day to be a godly wife and mother.

Experience in ministry will give you greater discernment. Ministering to others gives you a new ability to discern spiritual needs and develops the wisdom required to understand and evaluate a potential marriage partner.

Put God's work first and He will take care of everything else.

Suggested Memory Verse: "But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you" (Matthew 6:33)

Then there is a assignment.

Everyone has been waiting for the next chapter- Dreams Must Die. Stay tooned.

Chapter Seven- How Parents Can Help

2009-07-04T08:24:00.000-07:00

The Story

When we last saw the princess she was almost 21 feeling sorry for herself...

As we start chapter 7 it seems the princess has tears in her eyes and she does not seem to notice or care that the May flowers are beginning to blossom and the sun is shining brightly. I could care less too but whatever. The princesses father asks what the matter and she says "Oh nothing, I just... oh, if only a knight would come and rescue me in my distress." He father wants to know what her distress is. i want to know too because all she does is sit in that stupid castle all day. The princess is sort of a complainer... Perhaps if she went out and SOCIALIZED she wouldn't be a crab! Anyway, she goes on about how she isn't betrothed and not great knight has sought her hand and she is BECOMING AN OLD MAID! Yep you heard it here and OLD MAID! And her father who I must say is not the brightest crayon in the box asks if she is not happy. NO DUH! The princess says she sometimes is.

The king goes on to tell her that she has accomplished so much in her years and they have been useful. Her bright light has reached many. I have to say apparently it has not reached the prince ha ha. She complains some more by asking how long she has to wait. Her father with so much wisdom says, "If your heavenly Father told you, then it would not require any faith on your part. You would not learn the lessons or gain the rewards that directly result from waiting." She agrees but wishes her her wait was almost over. She then takes her father down memory lane and brings up the Spring Fair and how he said it was alright to go but she must be a candle and a rose. The king remembers and brings up Sir Eloquence. Really Sarah Mally? like we don't remember the first half of this story?

So she then asks permission to attend the Merchants' Fest in Carnalville. I guess it is a dangerous and a foolish party so all of us would probably like it ha-ha. She goes on to say that's he knows there will be dancing and evil talk but she would be careful to stay away from evil company. She understands she is not trying to search for a husband but perhaps she should go just so she can meet more men because she is almost twenty-one. I say go have fun your an adult but alas I am not the author of this story- who is thirty and unmarried. They go on about how she doesn't fear but her father does. the princess thinks her father worries about everything.

The king then recites, "The prudent man foreseeth the evil, and hideth himself: but the simple pass on and are punished."

The princess says to her father that the alligator speaks of the festivities and the social banquets to be enjoyed. The king replies, "The alligator eats the scum at the bottom of the moat" Sarah bolded alligator. The princess says the other maidens are going and she will stay with them. They mingle with the young men and the gator says that is healthy (and it is). The king reminds her she is a princess but the alligator has dragon's blood in his veins." Can anyone tell me if that is true? Cuz that would be really cool! and others (AKA the villagers) do not understand that a little foolishness ruins the testimony of one who has wisdom and honor and they don't have him as a father. Others do not represent. I wanna take a moment to give a shout out to my dad who is awesome and if I told him I was going to this Fest he would totally be cool with it!

The princess wines again that everyone is going to the Merchant's Fest. Her father goes, "When you chose to follow the way of purity, did you expect it to be easy? When you decided to wait for the best, did you think that waiting would be fun? Did you think that your faith would not be tested? When you decided to take the narrow path, did no one warn you that difficulties, hardship, and tears would be part of the journey, and that you would often face rejection from others and be forced to walk alone? My daughter, that which you wait for the longest you treasure the most, and through much struggle the prize is won."

Then her father turns to leave to go into the palace and the princess is left to think by herself. She begins to cry... again.She leans against the bridge and watches a few ducks and before she knew it... she fell in. Sorry I added the last part. The tears attracted the gator (no chapter can be written without our pal). Sarah calls the gator a persistent friend. Funny how the gator is a friend... The gator says, "So , you finally are realizing that your plans are failing. Well it is about time thou camest to thy senses. The princess says she doesn't wish to talk. The gator goes on to say, "Ahh, but you do. You want to tell your whole life story to someone who wants to hear every detail, to someone who loves and admires you, to someone who holds you close, to-" The princess replies, "Well, alright, but I do not want to talk to you. The gator continues "You need not. Just listen. For I believe that now is the time to reconsider your ways and to allow yourself to grow up. Thou hast no reason to cry. The Merchants' Fest is a week away." She then goes to say that her father doesn't want her to go and the gator says he never said you couldn't go because he was listening in on their conversation. The princess says perhaps he would let her go but he says it would not be wise. The gator reminds her that she is a woman, not a little child and she doesn't have to follow every little suggestion from her father. The princess says that she has always valued the counsel of her parents. The gator gives her a suggestion, "Get out of the nest where you are so comfortable and explore the new and different. You can be careful in Carnalville. That's all your father really meant, anyway." The princess goes on , "No, that is not all he meant. He meant much, much more." the gator then asks, "So what will you do, silly princess? Stay here and wait for a handsome knight to appear?" The princess replies that she doesn't know and asks to "Please let me be by myself!"

And we will till chapter 8...

Sarah's Advice

Okay we have heard a lot about parents and their counsel. I will still try to give you a bit of what Sarah says I just will not repeat what she keeps repeating... if that makes sense :)

A Special Provision From God

Since it is hard to go into a marriage without scars because the world is just so evil the Lord provided special assistance to guide us through, to give us wisdom, to protect us, and to help in any way we need it. The Lord gave us... drum role please... PARENTS! Over and over, Proverbs reminds us of the value of listening to our parents' instruction. parents are a gift from the Lord. Yet often we reject the very thing that God intends for our happiness, good, and protection. The young lady who is committed to God's best and desires to establish safeguards in her life will realize the tremendous protection the Lord has given her through her parents. God is the One who has set in place all human authority, and He works through it to accomplish His good purposes in each of out lives (Rom. 13:1, Eph. 6:2-3).

Imperfect Parents

Some readers might not have christian parents or may not have parents at all but Sarah wants to be quick to mention that God will always be faithful to provide the help you need. He gave you those parents who are not perfect for the perfect plan in your life. If you don't have parents, remember the Lord Himself becomes a special Father to those who do not have earthly one (Ps. 68:5). If your parents are not believers the Lord can still work through them. Of course, if they give you counsel that conflicts with clear teaching from God's Word (such as encouraging you to marry an unbeliever), You should obey the Bible, no matter what the consequences might be. Perhaps the Lord gave them a Christian daughter so you can work through them. She then puts in Romans 8:28. God can also work through other sources- perhaps your pastor or a godly older couple at your church.

For most of us, however, this special help we need will be provided through our parents. This does not mean that parents make all the decisions, but it is noteworthy to recognize that in Biblical times parents were often involved in choosing their children's mates, and fathers were held responsible for their daughter' purity (Gen. 24, 28:1-2, Ex. 34:16, Dt. 7:1-4). She tells everyone not to panic- She is not talking about arranged marriages. Parents love us and they would never force us to marry someone you didn't want to marry but Sarah would also not want to marry someone without her parents' input and blessing. God works through our parents. We should not be scared of parental involvement but thankful. I'm bolding this line... Sarah says, "I'm sure you would agree that getting married is one of the most important decisions we will ever make- much more important than whether or not we go to college, what interests we pursue, or where we live. We should be grateful for our parents' protection and willingness to be involved. Our parents know better than anyone else does, and they desire the very best for our lives (Hey thats what Jim Bob says all the time) We should also take our parents advice seriously because they have more experience and understanding than we do.

Seven Reasons To Send Young Men To Your Dad

If a guy expresses interest in you- send him to your dad first- It can have many benefits

1. Your father will respect you and know he can trust you.

2. You and your dad will be a team working on this together.

3. The young man will respect you. Even if he is surprised and finds this to be completely new concept, he will still respect your conviction.

4. If the young man won't go ask your father, then you know he is not the one for you. It is a good way to screen guys.

5. If your aren't interested in a persistent young man, well, you can let your dad explain to him-makes it easier for you! :)

6. If he does go talk to your father, your dad will probably see things in this young man's life that you did not see. He will be able to give you caution, wisdom and guidance.

7. If this is the right young man for you, he and your dad will start off their relationship on the right foot. From the beginning they will respect each other and have good fellowship. This is going to be an important relationship in the years to come.

Don't Keep Secrets

Its a story but here is the moral- don't keep secrets from your parents.

Embrace the Safeguard

Tell your parents everything- yes everything. Sarah knows it will be difficult but humble yourself, especially if you feel that your parents have also been wrong. But remember, the Lord exalts those who humble themselves. It is a promise (see James 4:10).

Also listen to the advice from your parents- they may have cautions you didn't see. It is difficult to submit but just do it. Honor your father. Ask the Lord to strengthen your relationship with your dad and to give you ideas about how you can honor him in your daily life. It takes effort to serve, submit, and communicate with your father, but God promises blessings for those who do. In addition, it will be very meaningful to your dad and important preparation for your future marriage. Speak well of your father to others. Pray for him everyday. Ask him to give you direction in ministry. Express gratefulness for the things he does for you. This attitude is greatly pleasing in God's sight (I Peter 3:4-6)

Take this commitment card have have your dad sign it also.

She quotes Provers 10:17 and Proverbs 6:20

Obstacles to Parental Involvement

Sarah is hoping you see that parental involvement is a good thing, something to be grateful for, and a valuable gift from God. Of course, it is not always easy to humbly receive it. The enemy will work hard to keep us from the blessings found in working together with our parents. Here are two difficult obstacles he places in our way:
1. Damaged Relationships
Satan seeks to destroy our relationship with our parents by stirring up bitterness, anger, and rebellion. Obviously, this will be a huge hindrance to the strong, healthy, working relationship that is needed in order for parents and children to be able to freely discuss important topics like marriage. That is why it's essential to clear up any past offenses and to work on being close to our parents now.
2. Cultural Influence
The world is against us. The world is telling us to do things opposite of the Biblical way, to be independent from our parents, and to make our own decisions, Therefore, we must realize that this is just another area in which we as Christians need to be willing to stand by following God's way and honoring our parents.

Benefits to Parental Involvement
1. Wisdom and caution from someone older and wiser-who loves you and has your best interests in mind
2. Valuable insight in evaluating a young man's character
3. Help Protecting emotions
4. Caution when your headed in a wrong direction or not aware of danger
5. Accountability
6.Help Discerning the right steps and the right timing
7. Freedom that comes from knowing that God will work through earthly authorities.

The Suggested Memory Verse is
"My son, give me thine heart, and let thine eyes observe my ways" (Proverbs 23:26)

There is a suggested assignment and a testimony from Grace Mally. Same ol' stuff...

I'm going to try to write 2 chapter reviews tomorrow. No promises but check back :)

Chapter Six- When God Says Wait

2009-07-02T05:49:00.000-07:00

The Story

So there is twelve chapters in this book and we have made it half way to chapter six.

Let's get started...

The Princess was thinking about how she said she should be a rose and a candle. She also thought about what the gator said about spending time with the young men in the village. She remembered the words of her father. Just a few weeks previously he had explained to her that the way to find a mate is not to look-but to prepare. Not to allow worry or fear, but to exercise Patience and faith. She knew he was right. Each day was a gift. She would devote her time to doing as much as she possibly could for God's glory and continue to wait for her prince. She began to find increasingly greater joy in serving her father and laying down her life for others. A lot was being accomplished during this time in her life. The princess represented her royal family on important occasions and she spent many days caring for orphaned children in the nearby villages and many other things. God was also teaching her much during these years and filling her with understanding and ability in all manner of workmanship. She discovered many talents and learned many things like fine artistry and fabric work.

Many widows and weary mothers were the joyous recipients of homemade gifts or meals from the princess. Her days were full and fruitful. She was a candle spreading light everywhere she went. Days passed. Weeks passed. Months passed. Yes, it was hard to wait, but she was busy with the work she loved. A year passed and the princess was now nineteen years old. The princess began to find pleasure in looking out her bedroom window and imagining the day her prince would come. Yet another year passed. The more time she spent looking out the window, the less time she spent listening to her father and focusing on the needs of others. It was during this time that a little seed began to grow in the princess's heart. The seed was called Discontent. At first it was so subtle that she hardly knew it was there. Oh, she would be quick to tell herself that she was happy, trusting her heavenly Father, and willing to wait however long He thought best. But she would often feel hurt when she heard o0f knights who came for other maidens, and she would find anxiety and even sorrow in her heart as she thought of her own predicament and the dreams that might never be fulfilled. The seed of Discontent grew. The more she looked out the window, the more she felt sorry for herself. And the more she felt sorry for herself the more she looked out the window.

The Gator asked one afternoon what was wrong. He could see she was not as happy as she always was. The princess says she is fine but the gator says she only pretends to be happy but she is lonely and the princess agrees that sometimes she is. The gator says that she should be more aggressive and she wants to know what he means. The gator suggests she make herself noticed. She should get to know every prince, knight, and peasant you meet. Dress so they will notice you. Learn to catch their eyes at strategic moments and to giggle at their jokes. He goes on to say she is a lovely girl and they shall fall for her in no time. The princess says that her father says to guard her heart. The gator says , "Guard your heart for whom? You actually believe that a prince will come for you? Thou hast too much faith in thy father and his fairy tale dreams. You are sheltered in this castle. Silly Princess, even if a prince were looking for you, he could not fined you!"

The princess goes on that if he comes her father says her heart is the greatest gift she can give him. The gator goes on about her friends and how many places they go such as balls and the courtyard. He says they are happy and asks if she sees the fun they are having. He says they are enjoying life. He says such friendships are harmless-in fact, they are healthy. The gator says that such relationships are necessary for one's education because how will you know that prince charming is the one for you if you have never known anyone else and how will you get any experience in socializing with knights. She goes on to say she is missing fun she has every right to enjoy.

The princess replies that Maiden Flirtelia is heartbroken because the knight who said he was in love with her married Miss Peacock instead. Several of her other friends are married... but are not happy. The gator says to just go ahead and keep waiting and live in the castle forever with her parents. Keep waiting- never take risks, never try anything new. The princess says "there is a trouble far worse than never being married. Being married to the wrong person. I much prefer to be happy and single than unhappily married. Marriage is not a right, but a gift." The princess than goes to her bedroom closing the door behind her and threw herself down on her canopy bed and decided that she would not even try to hold back the tears that were already beginning to roll down her cheeks. She was not enjoying the sunlight or taking any pleasure in the beauty of her royal quarters. All at once, the princesses pet canary began to sing. She wiped a tear way and opened the cage where the yellow bird jumped onto her hand. "I feel so lonely" the princess thought to herself. "I wish I could always be as happy as my bird is." She sighed deeply wondering if she would be single forever.

Despite her brave words to the alligator, the princess was not always so sure of her father's teaching when she was by herself. She never actually believed the gators words, but sometimes they did plant doubts in her mind she subconsciously would believe little bits of his arguments, and because of the seed of Discontent growing in her heart, she was easily discouraged. As the days went by, she continued to dream of her future and struggle with her emotions. The more she felt sorry for herself, the more she looked out the window, and the more she looked out the window, the more the seed of Discontent grew.

Sarah's Advice

I am not going to give advice from Sarah this week 1)because the story says it all in it's own way 2) I myself struggle with this so Sarah's advice was helpful 3) all good things do come to those who wait and waiting is hard most of the time

In our society we never have patience and in the area of love I agree marrying someone just to get married or jumping into a relationship cannot be a good thing. I'm sorry for all of you who love my snark but this chapter hit me really hard. I am a single 32 year old and sometimes it is hard to wait for that special someone. I also like how the princess says it is okay to be single. I wrote Sarah, Grace and Stephan Mally asking if they were married. None of them are. I wondered if they could give advice on love but in this chapter it shows that waiting is hard but good things really do come to those who wait. I promise the rest of the book shouldn't make me drink the kool-aid I guess this one was touch. I read this two days ago and thought about how i could present it. I hope how I summarized it was good enough. On to chapter seven...

The Suggested Memory Verse is...

"For the Lord God is a sun and shield: the Lord will give grace and glory: No good thing will He withhold from them that walk uprightly. O Lord of hosts, blessed is the man that trusteth in Thee" (Psalm 84:11-12)

There is also a suggested assignment.

Chapter Five- Romantic Dreams

2009-07-01T19:05:00.000-07:00

The Story

Hey everyone! Sorry it took so long to post again. I was finding a new home to share the blog and was just very busy. I am a bit tired tonight but I thought I would get out Chapter 5 for you all. Let's see what we learn tonight. Get your pencils ready...

So we begin the next chapter with the princesses mother asking if she is going with her to town. The princess is going to go but doesn't want to see Sir Eloquence there. She was happy the knight had stopped pursuing her hand and she did not expect him to be bothering her in the village anymore. Although she was happy that he was gone (even after her father embarrassed him) but she did miss him a little bit. The princess thought she was really missing his affectionate words and attention that she sometimes wished for. I think that is just the stupidest thing. Honestly- I think the Princess was missing all the attention because she is just a stuck up.

Her mother told her not to worry about him anymore and that she and her husband were very proud of her decision. Her mother told her she never has to fear what others think when you know what you have done is right.

The princess then goes on, "I know, Mother. But no one understands why I do not go to any of the dances or parties. They say I will never meet anyone and that I do nothing but sit in the castle and dream." He mother of course says "Nay, my daughter, they admire thy beauty, thy graciousness, and most of all, they purity. A few will always criticize. Perhaps they are jealous. In addition, it is likely that they feel guilty due to their own carelessness, an rather than changing their ways, they think it is easier to find fault with any who take the narrow way." The princess goes on saying that they speak lies of her. She thinks instead of being a candle as Father says she is she fears that she is discouraging any from following the way of purity. Everyone says her example is foolish and ridiculous." (I personally think it is foolish and ridiculous and I can't blame the young townspeople) Her mother gives her the wisdom only she knows "Not so, far many more respect thy ways than thou knowest. But as a crow cries noisily and interrupts an otherwise peaceful world, so the few critics are usually verbal while the admires remain silent." Then the princess wants to defend her motives but her mother says she cannot because it will only give credence to the lies. A princess must let her life and good works be her defense against any who seek to slander. And now we get to meet another person and you will NEVER guess who it is. It is the princesses friend- Maiden Flirtelia (hmmm I can only assume by her name what she is like ;) ) The princess has not seen her in weeks. She goes to visit with her and will meet her at the Fountain Circle after lunch.

Maiden Flirtelia says the princess looks lovely today. They spend the next few hours looking around Market Street, visiting the tapestry shop, and picking up some pastries at the bakery. They then sat down at Fountain Circle to talk. I have to interrupt again. I think it is sort of rude for the princess to meet up with her so-called friend for the morning. She wasn't meeting her she just barged in and spent the morning with her uninvited. Maybe it doesn't bother you my fellow readers but it bothers me. So Flirtelia chatted excitedly about the wonderful time she had at the Summer Ball. I guess the princess didn't go because Flirtelia said she should have went and meet all the enchanting young men. She had a romantic time with Sir Striking. The princess gets mad and says that she has not changed at all because all the Maiden can think about is men, romance, parties and weddings. Maiden Flirtelia said that the princess hasn't changed at all. Hold on here is the best part. The maid asks the princess "Will you ever grow up and start enjoying your life?" (hahah :) ) She heard that Sir Eloquence was seeking her hand and the princess never took time to consider him. The maiden asks if the princess knew he was one of the most popular knights. The princess goes on with , "Why take time for something one already knows will come to nothing, especially when it is neither wise nor safe?" The Maid then suggested that then she should have recommended the princess have the knight get to know her. The princess being a jerk said she should just go up to him herself because she has ample opportunities to converse with the knights."

The Maiden doesn't give up and says the princess should go to one of the dances and she would arrange a match for her. The princess says that the Maiden just doesn't understand. The maiden says she doesn't understand. She can't understand why the princess says no to a choice knight and why she would miss out on so many fun and harmless activities. As they were talking they were interrupted by a company of horseman who were on urgent business for the king. They stopped to make a proclamation. The princess and maiden joined the crowd to hear the message. It was then that the princess caught her first glimpse of Sir Valiant. he was well known in the kingdom for his heroic deeds, and well respected loyalty to the king. The princess had her her father speak of him but she had never known that he was so handsome or youthful. With dignity he spoke to the people and with a sparkle in his eye he bade them farewell. The princess could not help but notice that he far surpassed the other nights she knew in word and conduct. (Because she has so much evidence of this hearing him speak ONCE). and he was so very... The princesses mother interrupts her thoughts. They head home. All the way home the princess was thinking. With fresh and new expectancy, all her dreams were coming back: romantic, falling in love, living happily ever after with... with... with someone like Sir Valiant.

Toward evening she decided to go for a stroll where she meets the alligator. He asks if she made the right choice with Sir Eloquence. The princess says, "yes, vary." The gator marvels at her innocence and he fears for it For she is no longer a mere sixteen, young and sweet. She is nearing eighteen where it is time to become her own boss. Ummm Sarah Mally how can she be turning 18? She is 16? and it has only been what a day to a few weeks since the Spring Fair. I know I wasn't homeschooled Gothard style but I think a person is 16 than 17 THEN they are 18. But I don't know... I wrote notes during math class... it was my worst subject. Can anyone help me out haha j/k. So the princess says nothing but her blue eyes gaze at the glistening moon. The gator wants to know what she is thinking about. the princess thinks the stars are beautiful and the gator thinks she is quiet tonight and she is rude and says in her own way the gator should be too. Burn princess that is a mean burn. The gator goes on to say that the princess is in deep thought about something or someone. He goes on to say it is not to late for her to change her mind about Sir Eloquence and says she is free to do as she wishes and she could leave the castle this very night. Now you and I all know that is true. She might just run away if this was any other story but Alas we are reading a story about radiant purity and the princess with no name. Instead the princess says "Really, I marvel at thy ignorance. Art thou too blind to see that I never have, nor ever will, love a man like him?" (Yet she was crushing on him like in the beginning of this chapter). The gator asks who she will love and the princess says someone heroic and valiant (oh COME ON that is giving away the ENDING using that knights last name in her description) not merely skilled in speech. Someone who is kind and pure in heart. Someone who does not play with white roses that belong to others. The gator says in reply, "Dreams are good. But you must learn to give up certain ideals in order to face reality." and the princess says, "And treat casually what ought to be treasured and protected?" The gator thinks the princess is too careful and is afraid to try anything new. One little mistake will not matter. And the princess says, "There is no such thing as a little sin. Good Night!"

My Thought: Poor Gator! I also think this story is going to go downhill from here. The gator should join a different story because the princess is a lost cause...

Sarah's Advice

I am going to run through this because.. well I always do. Remember this is Sarah's advice not mine. Your princess daydream and ask the Lord about their futures. That is okay but the enemy will use this area to distract us from your focus on Christ. Not only do our own thoughts easily drift toward romance, but there seems to be plenty of people out there anxious to "help" us be distracted by guys. After all, starting in preschool, well-meaning adults and relatives begin asking us if we have a boyfriend. Then, to make matters worse, the majority of girls seem to be anxious to tell us about their special someone, or quick to point out whichever guy they presently think is the cutest.

The next section is called What is I have a Crush? Don't panic- it is normal. The problem isn't so much having a crush, but how we respond to it. One of the annoying things about crushes is they happen quickly and as son as we realize we are planning our bridesmaid dresses we realize we hardly know him. We realize how horrible it is to do such a thing and purpose never to do that again and realize we start all over again after five minutes. Sooo What should I do?

First of all Sarah has advice on what not to do when you have a crush:

Don't talk about him with your friends.

Don't intentionally do anything that will stir up more thoughts about him (i.e. don't put up pictures of him up all your wall :) )

Don't tell him how you feel about him or give any indications that you might be interested.

Don't dwell on thoughts of him or let yourself get carried away with dreamy imaginations.

Rather, when thoughts about young men arise (and they will), use these as a springboard to direct you to pray and delight in the Lord. The enemy is going to think twice about stirring up vain thoughts when he realizes that every time the thought comes, you simply turn it into prayer. Or you can also be faithful in bringing forth much fruit and pray for your future husband . She quotes Tit. 2:13. A second way to deal with crushes is to talk with your parents about it. This might be difficult, scary or embarrassing for you, but most likely your parents have already guesses how you are feeling. If you tell them, they will be better able to pray for, protect, and advise you. Confiding in your parents often relieves the pressure on you and may lighten the intensity of your "secret" crush. Sometimes they are able to help you think more realistically about your future and give a new perspective about what type of man they believe the Lord has in store for you. And finally when you are struggling with a crush, exercise faith by purposing to wait for the Lord. If this young man you are thinking about is the right one for you, God has apparently already started the work of bringing you together and will fulfill what He has begun in His perfect time and way. You don't need to do anything. Let God do the work. After all, your life is not really your story- It's God's story. You belong to Him. You represent Him. He is the One who gets the credit and the glory for your life. Do not pray for your own desires to pass. Pray for Ultimate glory to be given to Jesus. That's what you really want-isn't it? And remember, ultimate glory for Jesus means ultimate joy for you.

Sadly the next section is called Surrounded by Alligators (I love my gator friend so I am sad she is gonna use him to say bad stuff :() In the World in which we live, I'm sure you agree that it's difficult to keep our thoughts pure. With everyone talking about romance all the time, worldly pictures posted everywhere you look, inappropriate music playing in stores, and the constant bombardment of temptations from Magazines, the Internet, billboards and television, it certainly doesn't seem to easy to apply Philippians 4:8 and think about that which is true, honest, just, pure, lovely, and of good report. (Why don't they just live in a box with their scriptures if the world is so dang bad?

Thoughts about Thoughts At Bright Lights Ministry they discuss cleanliness and Sarah asks the girl to put on a piece of paper the hardest area in their lives to keep 'clean'. Most of the answers are 'keeping thoughts pure'. You are not the only one with that struggle but Satan wants you to think that you are. He wants us to feel defeated and think that we have failed. She quotes the bible I Cor. 10:13. Anyway, Satan works hard to deceive, confuse, and pollute us with wrong thoughts. It is not merely crushes that we face. Satan attacks in many different ways with thoughts that are vain, wicked, covetous, bitter, and untrue. She quotes II Cor. 10:5. We may not be able to determine what thoughts come into our minds, but we can determine what we do with those thoughts. The alligator spoke many lies to the princess. Some of these lies are ones that we may find ourselves believing. They are subtle, but deadly. It is not enough to just expose or get rid of a wrong thought. We need to replace the lie with truth. God's word is our standard. We must judge every thought according to the truth of scripture. Memorize specific verses relating to lies you are tempted to believe. Meditate on these verses whenever you are tempted to believe that particular lie.

Flee From Human Wisdom-

We as humans often try to come up with our own solutions to life's problems. Our own reasoning simply makes things worse, and the mess we;re in only gets messier. The world doesn't want you to think about the consequences of your actions. It just wants to make you feel good right now. The alligator did not speak a blatant lie to the princess; rather, he tried to mix a lie with some truth. The same way the world does it. The enemy encourages us to take the easy way, to follow the crowd, to reject our parents' counsel, to take matters into our own hands, to seek attention for ourselves, and to compromise our standards. The enemy also throws fiery darts of fear and doubt. He tells us that God's ways won't work, that God has forgotten us, that we are a failure, and that God is against us. She quotes Proverbs 3:5 and Luke 10:27.

This is the BEST part if you all were getting bored. Sarah says if you still struggle with thoughts. Read and memorize scripture every day. Set a goal to memorize entire books of the Bible. Yes people entire BOOKS! Get in the habit of quoting Scripture during spare moments. Think about it as you are going to sleep at night. Engraft the Word of God into your life so that it becomes a part of you. Sarah says this is the most important paragraph in the book because it is not possible to remove wrong or vain thoughts without replacing them with something else. The only way to get rid of darkness is to fill the space with light!

The Suggested memory verse is: "Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report: if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think of these things" (Philippians 4:8)]

There is a Suggested Assignment and a testimony about a girl with a crush who guarded her heart.

Next Chapter is... When God Says Wait.

Please feel free to comment. Thanks :)

About the Pictures

2009-06-29T22:02:00.001-07:00

I just wanted to say the little pictures are from the book. I am happy Sarah put them in for our viewing pleasure. That being said I don't want to copywrite so please don't use them anywhere else. I am just putting them here for fun. I don't want to get in trouble with Sarah Mally.

Thanks

Chapter Four- Could He Be the One?

2009-06-29T21:46:00.000-07:00

The Story

Hi again, so we made it to chapter four... and so many more to go. I am very happy with the response these reviews have made on others. Please share them and feel free to respond as much as you can. I finally figured out how I can post in the rooms so I will be more active there also. I made the forum because I felt it could go off-topic on other forums. I was going to make a what kids think section but I didn't know if 12 year olds still liked being called 'kids'. That part of the forum is great for the younger ones to post their thoughts and will be monitored.
So when we last met the princess she was at the Spring fair and met a young knight. This chapter is titled Could He Be the One? I am assuming no (I have not read the chapter yet I read as I type). Why do you say I think he is not 'the one"? Well, because there are way too many chapters for this guy to be the one she will marry... although I haven't written the book... Sarah Mally did. Lets get started...
The princess has returned from the spring fair and she told her parents about the day. THEY (yes the mommy was there lol) smiled as she described her encounter with the friendly knight and reassured her that she had done the right thing. Her father said every true knight desires a rose that is pure and has kept itself closed. He advised her that she must not be deceived by fancy words but must learn to look at life, the actions, and the character of any prince who might seek her hand. Her MOTHER (I’m shocked) reminded her not to worry about it or wonder if she had offended him. I am going to type what the mother said because I'm shocked she has a speaking role, "You were not rude, so you must not be concerned about whether he felt welcome, appreciated, or hurt. Pleasing him is neither your responsibility nor your goal."
The Princess tried to forget about the knight but he seemed to be somewhat of a stalker because he was always there when she went to the village and began conversing with her. Even so it was a great surprise of both the parents and the princess when he showed up at the castle saying he wished for her hand in marriage! (What the heck people it does not happen that quick in 2009- I don't care if this is set in the middle ages! Oh wait isn't that what Josh did with Anna's father...) The king wanted to get to know him more so he invited the knight to spend the day with him. The knight upon closer scrutiny, it became obvious that he was not a real prince, although he might pass for one if seen walking down the road. His armor did not have a perfect fir- likely borrowed and not his own. It did not shine in the sun, and he was not accustomed to its weight. Nevertheless, the princess did find herself feeling comfortable in his presence, for he certainly made her feel important and gave the most diligent attention to her every need.
I guess his stories didn't measure up to being a real knight either. It seemed he might have been making them up. The knight kept going up to her saying he loved her and she went away and again meets the alligator. The gator is happy a guy came to ask for her hand in marriage and asked if she answered him yet. She said she hadn’t answered. The gator thought for sure she would say yes and wanted to be the first to offer her his congrats! I think the gator doesn't realize he is dealing with a fundamentalist princess and I feel bad for him. I think he would be better not to hang around her because you know what the princess said? "No, I cannot say yes to such a man" The gator was surprised and asked, "What, you would turn down such an opportunity?" The princess did not think of it as an opportunity but a trap. Okay I have to tell all young children that this princess is about to get violent. She tossed a few stones into the moat and watched the water ripple. SHE FELT LIKE THROWING ONE AT THE ALLIGATOR, but decided it wouldn't do much good. I'm sorry but princess by the end of this book is going to marry probably a controlling man and she will be put in her place. The gator ONLY was giving her another option. an option I'm not sorry to say isn't that bad because NOT EVERYONE WHO DATES GETS A DIVORECE SARAH MALLY! I'm sorry this book is just horrible!
The next paragraph I could write out but I'm not going to but the gator does say all the maidens in the village would give the world for such a prince and says her standards are too high and will regret her loss forever. That got me thinking I wonder if the girls ever Do regret it later. hmmm The princess said that her father says he is not really a real prince at all. The gator says that her father doesn't understand. He remembers only the old days and he doesn't know how things work in these modern times of change. He does not know the love you have in your heart for the knight. The princess then says she does not love him and the gator says,"How do you know? Perhaps you will not let yourself love him. But give him a chance. Surely you cannot expect your father to understand. There comes a time when you must decide for yourself. The choice is yours. The princess says it is her choice and she is choosing not to marry him. The gator says perhaps she is afraid and he understands she might feel timid because she has not had many experiences while hiding in the castle all of her life. He asks if she wants to remain in regret the remainder of her life. The Princess responds "No, and because I shall choose not to live in regret, my only option is to decline. In fact, Mr. Alligator, you have made my decision easier. I clearly see now that I would not be happy if I were married to such a man. I think I shall tell my father immediately. Good Evening!"
So the princess goes to her father and he is having a conversation with the knight. The king says he has a challenge for him and Sir Eloquence agrees. The king says, "my desire is as follows: I have been hearing reports of one Mr. Scornful who operates a store in the mountain village. It is said that he frequently travels from place to place-spreading slander and lies about the upright. His shameless attitude is both contagious and damaging. I would like my citizens to see a true cowardice. Therefore, I propose that you challenge him to a-" "A debate! What a splendid idea," Eloquence said excitedly forgetting that interrupting the king is not the most advisable thing to do. The king says no it will be a not a fight with words but a test of courage and skill. Let me stop again... I think it is RUDE for the king and princess to lead Sir Eloquence on. He still thinks he has hope with the princess!
I guess they are going to do a jousting match because Mr. Scornful boasts he is so good at it. Is anyone else yawning? This part of the story is boring me. Well I guess Sir Eloquence was nervous but said the plan was brilliant and he suggests one of the more noble knights- Sir Valiant, Knight Trueblood, or Prince Gallant. Enough with the names we all get they are better than the gator and Sir Eloquence. I guess Mr. Scornful talks the talk but can't walk the walk so the king says that suggestions are not needed. Whoever challenges him places himself in a most vulnerable position. Again rude! why doesn't the king just send him on his way instead of humiliating him! I'm not getting into the rest of it lets just say to cut the boring part short the king dismisses Sir Eloquence because he wanted to think more about it and I guess have confidence. He left and didn't really even say goodbye and didn't seem interested in winning her hand anymore. The princess was surprised but grateful that the incident had come to an end so quickly.
Again I'm stopping this story. Little children NEVER treat someone like that! That was just mean. Okay so back to the story. The princess sat outside on her stone bench at the edge of the garden. She watched the fireflies begin to appear and thought about the qualities she desired in a husband. Suddenly feeling a strong hand on her shoulder, the princess looked up and saw her father, his tender face illuminated by the bright moonlight. Those are Sarah's words- not mine I think he is a JERK. The king sat beside her and the princess said she was planning on saying no to him anyway. The jerk of a king already knew that but a smooth speech is not enough to win a princess. I guess the king set up Sir Eloquence because he would have never been harmed because Mr. Scornful would never have agreed to a jousting match. the king chuckled because Mr. Scornful often boasts of his skill; He is a coward at heart. I guess even if Mr. Scornful would have agreed to the match Sir Eloquence would have been in no danger. Now get this the last line of the chapter of the story The princess smiled, feeling more assured than ever she would wait for God's best and settle for no other.
My Thoughts- I don't like the king or princess and they are the main characters. The next chapter is called Romantic Dreams. Sarah will probably mess that chapter up too.

Sarah's Advice
I am mad at Sarah Mally so this section might be brief or a rant. Sorry
The first section is called Not Every Knight Wears Shining Armor- I guess the first guy who comes up to your father and asks to court you might not be "the one" but I say how would you know that because the young girl won't date him her dad will tell her. This is the best part. Don't be an easy catch. How the heck can the girl be an easy catch? She can't laugh, smile or look at the guy. Any more rules Sarah? I'm sure she has MANY the book isn't even half done. Oh and if you can't say not to the guy, let your dad do it. WHAT THE HECK! The girl should learn how to say flippen NO what the heck will she do if she is ever being raped. I guess that would never happen in the fundamentalist’s world. He may be flattering but Satan will often bring along his "best" before God brings along HIS best. She says again to marry a STRONG Christian.
The next mini section is titles Be Not Unequally Yoked. Sarah goes on again how a Christian should only marry a Christian and puts bible verses II Cor. 6:14 and I Cor. 7:39. I wonder what happens if a girl marries a Christian and that man decides he wants to be a Muslim or a Jew. I'm bolding the next part. When you get married, your goal becomes to please your husband (I Cor, 7:34) He is your head, your leader, and your authority (Eph. 5:22-24) Think about what would happen if you married someone who was not a believer. How could you submit to a man who did not make his decisions based on the Word of God? What is your husband disliked church and refused to teach your children about Christ? Can you imagine how miserable it would be to use your life to serve someone who didn't have the same goals, the same priorities, or even the same basic foundation that you have?
The next section is called Marry a strong Christian- Didn't we already know this. Come on the girls who read this couldn’t be that stupid to have forgotten we JUST talked about this. It is just a story about Sarah and her sister Grace and how on the 4th of July someone told them they were very limited in guys to marry and she was happy they were limited. The story seems fake. Sorry I won't go on. If your dying to read it - purchase this book lol.
The next Section is Evaluate his Character and Direction. Sarah suggests making a list of the qualifications you are looking for in a husband. Okay there are two lists: a list of the essential qualities- things that you consider a requirement for marriage and a list of the desirable qualities- things that are important to you, though not necessarily a requirement. Then have your parents make two lists as well. Then compare notes.
The next section is (drum roll please) - Surely this Must Be the One- I Sam 16:6-7. I really don't know how to explain the first part of the chapter; She just says we should not want a Samuel like in the bible but a David. Cuz David's life was devoted to the lord than she lists 17 qualification to consider for the list which I'm sure you are all starting to do now to see if who you are dating/ married to or have yet to find is "the one". Also look for a guy who doesn't just SAY he serves the Lord but one who really does. He has to have the fruit in his life... If there already is fruit, then you know he's serious about his walk with the Lord (Matt. 7:16-20). Oh and he can't just have a cool bumper sticker saying he loves Jesus or a T-shirt with a cross. He has to have lasting fruit- fruit of the Spirit (Gal. 5:22-23). This might require a lot of waiting because a young man might change a lot between the ages of 18 and 23 (that sucks for Anna Duggar Josh is only 21). Oh wait Sarah is not saying that it is wrong to get married young. Her emphasis is not on AGE, but on SPIRITUAL MATURITY AND FRUIT. I guess we also shouldn't expect others to understand the commitments to which the Lord has led you. God's ways often seem foolish to the world- Love the people who misunderstand you.
The last section is Are You Ready for Marriage. If Your not ready for marriage there is no good reason to begin to develop a relationship leading in that direction. She has 14 questions to ask yourself if you are. I'm not listing them- sorry. All in all asking if you love the Lord and have a clear conscience, are a servant- stuff like that. Okay I read them and I am listing the last 4. ha-ha
Have I learned basic life skills, both educational ones and practical responsibilities?
Am I able to take care of a household? (in addition, you thought the Duggar girls were just sewing for fun or to save money- ya right. Don't even get me started on all the other household stuff they do)
Am I ready to be a mother?
Have I learned to be a giver, not a taker in relationships?
All in all have patience and pray Psalm 37:3-5. Wow hey when Jana signed my book (the Duggar one) She listed Psalm 37 3-7. Interesting...

Oh ya the Suggested Memory Verse is "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness? (II Corinthians 6:14)
There is also a suggested assignment but reading this was enough homework for all of you :)

Chapter Three- Guard Your Heart

2009-06-29T21:30:00.000-07:00

The Story

I just finished watching the 18 and Counting Episode with Jason’s birthday- and I sort of liked it. However, seriously, I have to get my snark on.
The last time we saw the princess she found out she was like a PURE white rose but was allowed to still go to the Spring Fair...
It seems after much thought and talks with her PARENTS: the princess decided to go to the Spring Fair. Sorry I bolded parents. I was just shocked the princess talked to both of them since it seems Sarah keeps forgetting to have a scene with the princess’s mother. Anyway... It seems she was going to this Spring Fair (could it be a better name than that?) not to get but to give (do not think dirty thoughts). She also was not going to make friends but to be a friend and not to fit into the crowd but to demonstrate to others an example of true royalty. She says goodbye to her Father and Mother excitedly and thanks them again for their advice. I personally think she should have taken the gators advice but what do I know I live in the world and I guess I must be of the world too...
Therefore, she fed Victory an apple and mounted him gracefully and enthusiastically began her journey. I personally do not know why she is so excited. I'm sure she will be bored or people will be bored with her because she is a party pooper. I guess Sarah had to add that Victory was excited today too. She was wondering what new experiences the day might hold and as she rode across the bridge there was our good pal the alligator and he was wondering where she was off to. The princess said she was in a hurry and didn't have time to speak to him now. The gator tells her to have a splendid day (he is very polite) and he was glad that she began making her own decisions. The princess says he is mistaken for she has always made her own decisions-as does everyone else. Some make wise ones, and others make foolish ones. Some listen to wise counsel, and others reject it. However, each person decides for himself which course he will take.
The smart gator who I love (I finally saw a picture of him and he seems very friendly) says that some are so hidden in their own little world that they do not know what is happening in the world around them. He says that there is evil in the world but one must get used to it or in the end, thou will be dreadfully shocked. The princess who seems to want to put up a fight (I thought she was in a hurry... but whatever... why add detail to this story). The princess says boldly, I can think of no more dangerous positions than to learn to tolerate evil in order to become accustomed to reality. The one who becomes comfortable with that which is corrupt is quickly to accept it, and what one accepts, he will soon embrace. I pray that I will always be shocked by the evil of the 'real world'"
The gator replied, "You misunderstand me. I only suggest that you learn to be independent. Thou wilt gain from new experiences, and it will be healthy for thee to socialize with friends of thine own age". This gator is right what is so bad about getting to know new people in our lives. Again, the princess I believe is very rude and says, "I have not time to argue. However, you’re foolish words only make the words of my father to seem yet wiser. Let me say the one who socializes merely for his own purposes is foolish. And now, I must be going." Jeez, I can't believe Jill Duggar likes this book. I'm sorry but socializing is a GOOD thing but whatever...
So the princess is anxious to be on her way and rides quickly down the road. Soon she hears voices and music coming from the fair. She remembered her father told her to have inner walls of protection, the princess purposed (why do they ALWAYS use this word. What ever happened to the word try) to be a white and pure rose closed until the right time, as well as a bright candle giving light to others. So she gets to the fair and starts to mingle with the young ladies chatting in the park. She of course made friends quickly. She never acted like she should be treated as royalty- rather she was quick to serve and fellowship and put others first. Her kind words, gracious manners and loving actions were obvious to all... Okay I'm stopping the story again. How can anyone relate to a perfect princess? It is getting annoying. If anyone has like a code word we can use instead of me writing how great she is Please tell me via the forums. Okay there was another paragraph about the same she was great stuff so I’m skipping to the next part because I'm sure none of us in the real world really care. The Duggar girls on the other hand might be taking notes... Anyway, around noon, (finally a decent description of time) she seated herself on a blanket in the middle of the park. Okay Sarah now that’s just too much description. Who cares if she is in the MIDDLE of the park... jeez. Sorry back to the story. I guess she joined some other girlfriends who were eating too. She then heard a pleasant voice behind her. She turned around and found herself looking into a cheerful face of one of the young knights. So he tells her she shouldn't be sitting with those girls because she deserves a seat of dignity because she is a perfect princess. He asks her to join him at the table over yonder because he would appreciate her fellowship.
The princess declines saying thank you but she is fine. She is enjoying the children and has met several lovely village girls. Where did these children come from? If you are having a hard time following this story I'm sorry... so am I. He then asked again and she said she is honored but she really prefers to stay. Okay then he says that naturally, she should stay, he praises her with that word we don't know yet but will use soon and asks to join her there. I guess that flies with her because she says, "why certainly". He says his name is Sir Eloquence, which means he probably is going to be like what his name means (fluent, forcible, elegant or persuasive speaking in public). He says that loudly and immediately sat down beside her and began conversing freely. "Tell me about thy castle and thy plans for the future. I have long been a friend of thy family." The princess wonders why she never heard of him if he was a friend of the family. She then thinks she was too quick to welcome his company. I say how the heck was she going to know in the dang first place if she never had talked to him..DUH! So she answers his questions and the knight listened attentively to the princess's every word, laughed at her stories, and told many interesting tales himself. She enjoyed his fellowship, but she was beginning to feel uncomfortable by his overfriendly manner. He asks if he can take her home but she said she preferred to ride alone and without giving him any time to respond (which I think is RUDE princess!) she added "Good-bye! I enjoyed our visit" All the way home the princess pondered the events of the day. She asks herself, "Was I took friendly with Sir Eloquence? What if he is the right one? How do I know if I am guarding my heart?" The wise princess knew exactly whom she should ask for advice.
My Thoughts: I would think the story would be romantic if Sarah Mally didn't add all that thinking. Jeez, this princess will never get married. I know she won't but I wish she would go to the gator for advice. I'm a romantic and love romantic stories but this one is stupid. What do you all think?

Sarah's Advice
Ahhh yes Sarah Mally's advice...don't we just LOVE it ;)
She starts out with the question- How do I protect my heart? Apparently the heart id more than just emotions. What the heart desires is the most powerful force in our lives so we need to guard it from those influences that would seek to divert pollute or steal our hearts. I have to stop for a minute and give a lesson on the heart. It really doesn't "feel" It may seem like it but it just really pumps blood into our veins- but what do I know I went to public school. Moving on. First Sarah says we have to think of practical ways to protect our hearts when we interact with young men. Remember the dangers of the dating system? Well Sarah says that not dating gives us new freedom in relationships, Guys do lots of dumb and immature things to get girls' attention (and vice versa)She gives examples of them but the are just too stupid to talk about (sorry this is a long chapter and well I don't think you really need to know what her Christian Elementary school days were like- This time she was in the second grade. Of course boys do stupid things in second grade- they were 7) Oh okay I'll tell you she got kissed on the cheek- in second grade. I am sorry but she should not be writing this book if she is not a pure white rose! Sarah goes on about how we have to form friendships with guys but yet guard our hearts.
Sarah tells a story of her sister Grace (who was fourteen at the time) and some guy at a conference that wouldn't leave her alone. I guess she went into a dark room and was hiding from him and Sarah found her. She says not to hide from people who want to be your friend. She then gets all these questions about guys. Like I'll name 3 " Is it okay to write or e-mail boys?" "Is it okay to hang out with Boys?" "What should I say to friends who are always talking about guys?" Those three sum up the questions. Sarah says the questions really come down to this: how do we guard our hearts? It is okay to be friends with young men because they are our brothers in Christ and should be treated as such. But of course, a friendship with a guy comes with cautions. So here, they are according to Sarah Mally and summarized by me -I'm not going to type 7 pages out for you :)
1. Keep the friendship casual- Okay you know the level of friendships: acquaintances, casual friendships, close friendships, and intimate friendships. In order to save your heart you have to have friendships with a guy that are acquaintances or casual level. Remember it is very easy to move past casual level so Sarah says don't share personal or intimate things with your guys friends. It is good to talk about the Lord and encourage your guy friend with the love of the Lord and share how the Lord is working in your life. If you share your heart, you will become attached. It is best to keep conversations short. Be aware of the fact that it is easy to give away a piece of your heart to a young man without dating him. During this time in your life, focus on becoming best friends with your family members and building relationships with godly young ladies. Remember the point isn't to avoid guys, but to protect and guard your heart from being given away prematurely. Emotional intimacy belongs to your spouse.
2. Avoid situations that will breed emotional bonds- Don't spend time alone with one young man or single one out in a group. Stay with a group of people. If you get into a long one-on-one talk with a boy, you are putting yourself in a situation that can easily cause you to open up, connect with him, and find yourself in a more-than-casual friendship. It may mean nothing to the guy but to you as a young lady, it will be a distraction and emotional tie. The same thing goes with letter writing. Once premature, close friendships are formed, it's much harder to stay emotionally pure and focused on the Lord. Sarah is not trying to give you a list of rule but she wants to emphasize that we as young ladies must guard our hearts diligently. Our natural tendency is to want to give our hearts away. In fact, God designed us to give our hearts away-but only to our future mate. She quotes Proverbs 22:5. Whenever you read my reviews, you need a bible handy lol.
3. Don't seek attention for yourself- This section was mostly a situation/story but really the whole point is that a common mistake young ladies easily make is encouraging guys to be interested in us simply because we appreciate the attention. We are defrauding. A girl can defraud by dressing in a way so that boys will notice us, flirting with our eyes, or even just by the way we smile at a certain time or laugh at every joke. I guess doing that is not sending a godly message. So ladies so don't you dare laugh at smile at guys. Jeez this one bugs me... a lot.
4. Ask your parents for specific guidance-this sums it up the best. God gave us our parents- our parents can give advice and guide us. Since our family members know us and understand our strengths and weaknesses, God can use them to give wise guidance.
5. Guard your words when you are with friends- In an effort to guard your heart, choose friends who will edify you spiritually and build you up. If you find yourself surrounded by girls who are boy-crazy, be willing to stand alone by explaining to your friends why you are cautious about talking about boyfriends. Use these awkward situations as opportunities to teach others why they need to embrace some of the safeguards that you have chosen.
6. Avoid influences that pollute your thoughts-If you truly desire to guard your heart, then it should be obvious to you that you ought to avoid any influences that distract your thoughts or stir up wrong desires. Sarah already talked about friends but she lists a few more. Movies and Television Sarah says Watching TV is like dating the world. Hmmmm, The television is full of evil concepts, words, actions and pictures that can quickly pollute our minds with worldly thinking. Television also tempts us to waste much valuable time. The Internet The normal stuff you always hear. Have a good protected internet service, watch who you talk to etc. You know the drill- we all hear it lots of times. Very good to talk to your kids about actually I do agree with Sarah on this 100%. I grew up without a computer so I see what she is saying. She also adds be vigilant to guard your eyes. Music Sarah believes Satan is using music in powerful ways to damage and pollute Christians today. Not only the words, but also the attitudes, moral bankruptcy of the songs, character of the musicians and the addictive, physical drive of the beat all combine to create a rebellious, independent spirit which leads to dangerous, immoral patterns in young listeners. She wants us to examine the source of the music and ask, "Is it of the world?" (See 1 John 2:15-16 and James 4:4) Test the fruit of your music. Godly music must be edifying. Does music focus the listener on the Lord? Just as wrong music pollutes our soul, so godly, melodious music uplifts and edifies our soul. This one ticks me off. I can't get into it... I will rant. Books and Magazines Sarah says no romance novels- even Christian ones (what is her story then). They may seem innocent yet they fill our minds with romance, causing us to dream in unrealistic ways about the future rather than delighting in Christ (whatever Sarah your story is about Princesses. What happens in most to all fairy tales- it turns into a romance) She quotes Proverbs 4:23
The next section is titled Listen to Caution- In your lives we have to have warning systems in place and when we sense that something is wrong we listen to the caution, stop in our tracks, and check things out. The enemy knows how easily relationships with young men can get out of balance. He knows how quickly we become distracted. When we are headed the wrong direction, the Lord will use many different forms of cautions to get our attention. The Holy Spirit will convict us, our consciences will prick us, our parents and friends may point out blind spots or concerns. Much distress will be avoided if we learn to caution and to act as soon as we realize our error or danger (II Tim. 2:22), All in all don't avoid red flags.
The last section is called No Vacancies- Our heart I like a garden. It needs to be protected and kept clean (a garden is clean???) The good- the beauty, placed there by our heavenly Father- needs to be nurtured. Any pollution needs to be removed and all enemies- and there are many, coming in all shapes and forms- must be kept away. God wants us to keep our hearts clean and pure- free from guilt, wrong motives and distracting affections (Matt. 5:8, Jas. 4:8) He desires our hearts to be soft-saying that he will not despise a heart that is broken and contrite (Ps 34:18). He looks for hearts that are tender, upright, sound and perfect (II Chron. 34:27, Ps. 7:10, Ps. 119:80, II Chron.16:9) Our heart is the first place the enemy wants to attack and his tactics may seem harmless, meaningless, and even attractive. A heart that is truly guarded must have no vacancies- no empty spaces that need to be filled, no voids that leave open places and room for the enemy to get in. Young ladies who guard their hearts, who are careful in their words and actions, and who know when to be reserved are actually respected by men. Godly young men are drawn to young ladies who guard their hearts and embrace protection. Immature guys, on the other hand, are often afraid of the girls they respect.
Again a Suggested Memory Verse " Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life " (Proverbs 4:23) there is also a Suggested Assignment But I am not posting it.

There again is a testimony- about a commitment with the Lord- That’s all it really isn't a thing you need to hear ;)

Chapter Two- Dangers With the Dating System

2009-06-29T21:20:00.000-07:00

The Story

Well, I have my soda and I'm comfortable. I think I am ready to type out the review of this chapter. I just wanted to say before I started to please check out the forum on this page. There are really no rules associated with it. So go ahead and enjoy...
Now about your homework assignment- did you memorize Revelation 19:7? You did! Well then we can continue the story.
The last time we saw the princess she was coming inside from the rain. I do have a question for you all to ponder. Remember the gator and Victory the horse- I know you do :) Well how come the gator can talk and the horse can't? It makes me wonder. Like the Pluto and Goofy thing. Oh well... anyway, well it seems a few weeks or months went by. I wouldn't know Sarah Mally didn't tell me in the story. I know it is not years because I'm sure the princess is still 16. If I find out differently I will tell you. I honestly believe detail to a story says a lot and since I don't know the time frame I feel a bit lost.
Even though I am a bit lost I will continue the story. Now where were we... ahhh yes I guess the castle that the princess lived in was a very busy place, filled with music and laughter, banquets and feasts (picture the Duggar household on a birthday- all the tator tot casserole, cake and fountain coda you can imagine). Again Sarah reminds us that the princess is loved by all- so loved it seems she was friends with many of the servants and guards. She also enjoyed meeting the many knights, ambassadors and dignitaries who reported to the king. She learned a lot from their intriguing stories and she wanted to make their time at the castle a lovely experience. Okay Sarah we understand she is popular and loved. Why do you continue to remind me? What happens if a little girl reads this and she is not popular and loved? How will she ever relate?
So even though her days are joyous and fruitful the princess finds herself pondering what the gator told her. She is trying so hard to dismiss his counsel as foolish, but sometimes it left questions in her mind, and once in a while it even began to sound attractive. I never was counseled by a gator. I wonder what they charge per hour or if they even charge. I'm always try to save money ;) Okay so the princess goes up to her Father and asks if she can ask him a question. He says. "Ask on, my daughter" She goes on to say she would like to go to the Spring Fair. The king is all like "why"? and she is all like and I kid you not”The alligator told me it be necessary that I socialize. He fears that I be sheltered". No kidding she is sheltered... poor thing. Her Father goes on about the castle was built to protect not confine and well I guess the castle can't protect her because he says she must have 'inner walls' in heart and mind. Inner walls are that of conviction built out of the granite blocks of principle and wisdom from our heavenly Father.
The princess then has the nerve to ask if what the gator told her is correct- "is she sheltered". He never directly answers her but dances around the subject by talking about her being pure. She has to guard her heart and her mind from evil. It doesn't matter what other people think. She then continues to ask if she can go to the Spring Fair because- "All the maidens will be there, and they have asked me to join them." The king then questions if she is seeking all the others approval. Of course like a good pure princess she says "No, Father but if I never experience the real world, I fear I will never fit in." The king goes on about how she won't fit in and asks if she wishes to be like the other maidens and youth. Okay I am going to quote to you exactly what the princess and kind say and please grab a tissue because this is sort of sad. "Oh No! They are silly and chase after vain things, “she answered.”But Father, what thinkest thou of the alligator's words? Do you think that I should socialize?
"It depends on thy purpose" He answered. "
"The alligator says I will never meet a prince if I do not learn to mingle more freely as do others," The princess sighed. "He says the other maidens socialize oft with the young men in the village. Okay I'm gonna stop right here quoting because it sickens me. I have to wonder why ANY young girl would find this to be a good story because it just shows how flippen sheltered the Duggars are. grrr. Anyway, the king says her role is to not fit in the world but to change it. She is called to give light to the world of darkness and she is a light that shines brightly. She then asks her Father if he is overly cautious? On a side note the king is now described as looking very wise with his full, dark beard and blue eyes that were deep and pure. I guess the princess knew deep down that her fathers counsel was right but his words are hard to accept. The father then says that, “few treasures are so easily lost as thy purity- yet few so important to keep." They now take a field trip not to the village but the flower garden (exciting)!
The garden was well groomed and the sky was blue and was framed by trees. Through the branches the princess should see the vine-covered walls of protection her father, grandfather and forefathers had built, as well as the towers for the sentries who were ever guarding the castle. On both sides of the back courtyard were large, black, iron gates- strong a secure, but they were never closed except at night or during war. The king wanted all his subjects to visit the gardens, to enjoy them and to learn from them.
The king asks his daughter what she sees and it is a lovely rose and of course the dang thing is PURE white. The flower is also closed it is just a bud. The king wants to know what is inside but the princess says she can't open it because the flower has to open by itself. The king again says he wants to see the inside and the princess says "Then you will have to wait for it to open when it is ready. If I force it to open, you will never see its beauty. The king then teases her and asks if she is overly cautious. He wants to only open a few petals. The princess then remarks that the rose is very delicate and the petals would tear, and it would never be the same. Okay... wait for it... here is the life lesson...
"and so it is with many fair maidens," the king explained. "Their beauty is never fully seen, for they wait not until the proper time. They are handled and played with by too many a fellow. Their heart is open prematurely. The fragrance and beauty that was intended for the perfect time is lost or damaged forever." Now the princess understands this but all she wants to go to is the dang fair. The king says, "Thou mayest go to the fair if thou think it to be profitable, but first thou must understand how easily a heart can be stolen. Thou must purpose to be a white and pure rose- a bud that is still closed and one that will not give away the key to her heart until the time be right." The princess asks when she will know the time is right. The king being all-wise says "Thou wilt know. But it will not be for a while. Devote thyself to the business of thy heavenly Father. Learn to say down thy life for others. In so doing, thou wilt be prepared for the noblest and bravest of knights, and no rose will be sweeter nor more beautiful than thee."
What will happen with the princess? Will she enjoy going to the Spring fair and make wise and pure choices? or will she jump on the alligators back and swim away to big bad New York City? Coming soon...

Sarah's Advice
I apologize in advance because I might be typing the whole rest of the chapter. There was so much stuff!
Anyway, Sarah starts by talking abut the AMERICAN System- AKA Dating. Sarah says that this is a new thing and has not been the process used throughout history. She said that it is easy to allow ourselves to become comfortable with a system simply because we have all grown up with it and are familiar with it. I guess that means it is dangerous because our thinking should be shaped by scripture, not just current trends. After all, God's way is seldom the popular way. Too many people rely on culture instead of the word of God. She claims that most people cannot even give solid answers for why they do what they do- they are just following the crowd. She then goes on to remind us that the Bible is the standard by which we must evaluate every area of our lives. I'm going to quote the next part because I think it is important to get her exact words since it is very much like how Fudies think. "If you look at the fruit of the American system of dating, there is reason to be seriously concerned. The majority of modern marriages end up in divorce. Few marriages are truly happy. And many enter into marriages with injuries, emotional handicaps, and scars from past dating relationships."
Now if you thought it couldn't get any worse... you were wrong. The next section is titled Marry a Christian. I am not going to tell you the whole thing because well the title says it all. I guess Sarah met some girl who was a great Christian but she was dating someone who didn't go to church. I guess the girl was going to marry the guy even though he was not really 'into church'. The girl was hoping he would change. Sarah said the girl couldn't practice discernment and make a logical decision because she was already attached. The girl could not dream of NOT marrying him now. I guess the girl was dating him for six months and they have never been apart for more than twenty-four hours. The girl had not seen him since yesterday and she was going through withdrawal. (I personally think that it is cute how the girl is acting and I wish Sarah would mind her own business but who am I to judge it is her book...). Sarah then makes the shocking announcement that this is not the only Christian girl who is being led astray by marrying a nonbeliever. The crisis is happening all around us. She then goes on to say that the Bible is clear that CHRISTIANS SHOULD ONLY MARRY CHRISTAINS (I Cor. 7:39, II Cor. 6:14). She just doesn't know why this could be happening but she does give some ideas.
A list of possible reasons a Christian would marry a non-Christian as told and believed by Sarah Mally:
1. It could be that one of them lied. You know a guy will say anything for a girl, and vice versa.
2. Perhaps one of them was sincerely deceived and considered himself to be a believer, but didn't understand the gospel-that Christianity is a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, formed at the moment in time when one specifically and genuinely asks Christ for forgiveness and mercy.
3. Maybe they both went to the same church or were from the same denomination and therefore just assumed that the other was a Christian.
4. They might have believed that after marriage they would be able to lead their spouse to the Lord.
5. Possibly, they felt pressured into getting married by circumstances or other people.
6. Maybe one of them got saved after they were married. Well, that's a good problem! Someone came to know the Lord!
Sarah says she could list more possible scenarios but the ONE MAIN REASON for unbalanced marriages -it's called dating! Now all you Duggar fans get really excited because Sarah tells an example of 2 people and their names both start with the letter J. Here is the story retold by me. So this dude Jared asks Jessica on a date. Jessica is all like, "ummm I don't know if he is a Christian" She decides to go anyway because it is ONLY A DATE. They go out and have a really nice time. Jessica thinks Jared is so funny! And Jared finds Jessica to be insightful and considerate. So then they decide to try a second date and Jessica has the best conversation she ever had with a guy. They start to get close and the bonds begin to form. According to Sarah Mally dating is a very emotional thing. So I guess it is bad because Jared isn't a Christian and she now has prematurely formed a bond. He also doesn't have the traits she was looking for in a husband. They can't break up now it would be just too painful. She justifies the relationship (because after all, they love each other, and that is all the matters-right?) and they get married. So Sarah doesn't tell us the ending she just says that everyone has high standards on who they want to marry. By saying "it's only a date" the people are not realizing the emotional bonds that form so quickly and easily. Then a person could experience deep pain of breaking up or marry someone who is lacking in spiritual strength or maybe isn't even a Christian. I personally think that whole idea is MESSED UP- but whatever.
I guess Sarah also says that there are problems with dating in general. Even if two people are Christians. I will now list the problems of dating as told by Sarah Mally:
> People Date in order to have a good time right now. Many times they're not actually planning to get married. This is a crucial point: they are not planning long-term commitment. But why date and get attached to someone who is not going to be your life partner? Dating is thinking about fun now rather than loyalty to your one lifelong partner and the joy of the best marriage later. In other words, the world's way of "now oriented." God's way is "future oriented."
> Most young people plan to date a number of different individuals in order to get to know a variety of people-and then pick the best one to marry. What they fail to realize is that the process that forms bonds begins with the first relationship. Then the break-up process is very painful. In other words, the world's way involves the pain of separation. God's way involves no separation.
> Much of the dating we see today is "me oriented" (to bring me security, enjoyment, fulfillment, etc.) and often leaves hurt and pain in the lives of others. True love always puts others first and focuses on their needs. In other words, the world's way is to get. God's way is always to give.
> People start dating long before they are considering marriage. Just think of all the "dating" that happens even in elementary or middle school. Boys and girls "date" because it's a thrill or a tempting experiment-not because they are committed to this person. In other words, the world's way is for pleasure. God's way is for commitment.
> The Bible does not give any positive examples of anything even close to dating. In our modern world, everyone is comfortable with the dating system simply because it's what everyone does. In other words, the world's way is built on human thinking, tradition, and culture. God's way is always based on the Word of God- Biblical standard, principles, and goals.
> People date, planning to break up if things don't work out. This seems like practice for divorce, not Marriage! In other words, the world's way is temporary. God's way is permanent.
Sarah says the best way to sum up the list would be to say dating, as we know it in America, tends to follow patterns of the flesh (our earthly self which is weak and naturally sinful). But our goal is to follow God's way-the pattern of the Spirit. Dating is an example of the rivalry of the flesh and the Spirit found in the scriptures. She then quotes Gal. 5:16-17.
Now I'm sure you are wondering what is God's way? How can we get married if we don't date? Sarah says scripture is filled with principles and concepts that teach us what we need to know in order to make wise decisions. The specific way God brings people together will be different in every case (example Josh meeting Anna at the concession stand). But Sarah says we can trust that as we choose to flee from the patterns of the flesh, to walk in the Spirit, and to apply God's principles in our lives, God will lead us to our future life partner in His way and at the perfect time. I guess we have to finish the book to learn how to seek God's ways and to avoid the thinking of the world.
The next part is so ridiculous I am not spending much time on it. Why you may say? Because he example just shows how much 'real world' knowledge Sarah has. I guess when Sarah was Ten years old her friends world revolved around boyfriends. This was I her Christian school. Sarah mentions she went to a Christian school up through fifth grade (and then started homeschooling). So you know that she knows A LOT about relationships that are formed outside of elementary school. I guess in this sinful Christian Elementary school Sarah's various friends seemed to continually be pairing off, breaking up, choosing a new boyfriend, breaking up again, and so on. (I work in an Elementary school so she must have noticed this all before lunch because that’s how 10 year olds are because I have a news flash for you Sarah- That is HARDLY dating when you are ten!)
Anyway Sarah is grateful her parents protected her and helped her see the dangers of the dating system. When Sarah was thirteen she went to a Youth event and was shocked that most of the young people were more interested in who liked who instead of the Word of God. SHAME ON THEM! She was sad that dating was consuming everyone’s thoughts. She thinks it is not only silly but DANGEROUS. Dating was big huge game. I guess in the Bible that Sarah reads only we do not see any examples of couples pursuing romantic relationships except for the purpose of marriage (and when Jesus was in Cana he turned water into grape juice!). Sarah knew two things: 1. She wanted to wait for God to bring the right person.
2. When it was the right time, she knew she wanted her parents to be involved. She figured that they would be a team working on this together.
Sarah doesn't need to date, flirt or be searching for a husband. The Lord is more than able to arrange her marriage without her help. So in a sense Sarah believes in "arranged marriages" but the twist is God is the one doing the arranging.
Sarah then begs the question But how will I get to know someone? Sarah figures the young girls already are acquainted with dozens of boys that they will never marry and the young girls didn't have to date them to find that out! She said that the young girls will form friendships with people just by observing them at church, family get-togethers, school activities, or by working with them in ministry opportunities. Sarah thinks the young girls will get to know the young man better this way. A girl can see what he is truly like and how he responds in various real life situations- not just in a romantic relationship. When God brings that special into their lives the will gave them opportunities to get to know them. parents can often provide lots of help and advice but it is essential to remember (so Sarah says) that there is no reason to cultivate a romantic relationship for any other purpose than the objective of marriage.
She then suggests a Memory Verse to memorize:
"This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh" (Galatians 5:16
She also gives a suggested assignment:
A young lady once wrote me a letter saying how hard it was for her because she didn't have anyone to date. This hurting girl was lonely and frustrated, and she kept noticing everyone else with their boyfriends, She was feeling so desperate that she began writing letters to guys she knew, inviting them to events, and trying to get their attention. If this girl asked you for advice, what would you tell her? What suggestions would you give her? Write a sample letter, giving some counsel to this young lady. Be sure you include Scripture in your answer. Seriously if you do this make it funny and Fudie. people would love to read it

Before the next chapter Sarah does give a testimony of a young lady who gave away "pieces of her heart" at the age of fourteen. I figured you could just read Michelle Duggars story and get the same jest.

Chapter One- Desire the Very Best Marriage

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The Story

So there is the 16- year-old chick who is riding on a horse (do not think so sick here (like me) this book is geared toward 12 year old and older.) She does not have a name. I do not know why but she does not. I think this is so the reader can identify with her. Anyway, she is riding her horse Victory (yes, the horse gets a name) and all the towns’ people are commenting on how she is a lovely girl- a precious gem etc.... We (the reader) find out she is a princess not only by linage but also in conduct. Although she has outward beauty, she is also beautiful inside. She is kind to everyone she is respected not only because she is a royal but because of her kindness, gracious words, and evident maturity beyond her years. She of course was not perfect because she was not as wise as her father the king. She had much insight and discernment, but she was nonetheless still subject to emotions. (OH NO!) The problem starts here- she starts questioning her father about the towns people because the king says they have dangerous ways and opinions. She thinks they are peaceful and good. Well , anyway, she goes on to wonder what her future will hold and she supposes Mother is right, It is not for her to know, She must concentrate on the work that God gives her to do each day and trust Him to direct her paths. Well, suddenly, it is getting dark- and the princess informs us that the biggest enemies of the kingdom are not seen but the unseen (hmmm) and the villagers are easily led astray. She wonders what she can do about that but before she can finish her thought cue the horseman galloping to see the princess. She is all questioning him why he is there and he is all like “your Father wants you home cuz there is a storm coming" she is all like, "well I was visiting Aunt Prudent and Uncle Justheart, the Duke and Duchess of Wisdomton and it is always difficult to get away. I guess the ride took longer than expected. All I am thinking is why is she ALONE with a GUY that is so not what I learned on 18 kids and Counting. Well I guess it does not matter because the horseman leaves her to ride home peacefully (I guess the storm is no problem anymore).
So you know how I was wondering how the Princess could be ALONE I guess Sarah Mally read my mind because the next paragraph explains that she didn't need any guards or escort because it was a time of peace, and the land was well protected by many good knights and warriors scattered throughout. (AKA she was NEVER alone) The king also felt the princess should not follow the normal custom of royalty and isolate herself but to go a serve and minister to them- from the greatest to the least. The kingdom needed examples such as this princess without a name. Yet the king was by no means negligent to protect his daughter. He had a great love for her so he was committed to safeguard her in every way. Hold on this is the best part- Indeed; many considered him to be too careful (people who were not Fudie I guess). In his wisdom, he understood that it was not the outward threats that were most deadly, but the inward pollutants and evil influences that attack the heart and mind.
The princess walked by faith and was happy her father was strict and accepted the protection and guidance. Even so, it is questionable whether she fully treasured this most valuable gift cuz she is all-young and stuff. However, she still appreciated the protection and occasionally thanks her parents for it. Of course, she did not have any idea how much this protection would benefit her life, how vital it was for her future, and how much grief it had already spared her. The princess has all these hopes and dreams for the future but I guess she can have them until chapter 9 when her dreams must die. Well... we are not there yet so let us believe the princess is super duper happy and glad yet. It says she has places she wished to visit, people she hoped to meet, and great things she wanted to accomplish (well Princess too bad you were born in Wisdomton cuz that is never gonna happen) Most of all she desired to use her life to nourish and strengthen others- cuz she is a servant and she understood that even though most princesses don't. However, here is the issue- amidst her many noble dreams, the one most frequently, was (you will never guess)... yes, she dreamed of the day when she would fall in love with her Prince Charming and live with him forever. (And make many of babies and yes, Sarah I did guess it. I figured this is where the story was heading since it is a sixth graders book. You know I think it is like a fourth graders book. But who am I to judge...) Anyway Sarah has to point out that the Princess is ONLY 16 and she did not need to be thinking about that yet!
Okay I promise you that I am really going into detail with these chapters because well there is a lot of stuff and I want to make it so if you desire not to read this book someday you won't have to :))Okay finally the Princess got off the horse and is walking along a stone path and she begins to do that darn dreaming of her future again. She kissed Victory’s nose (that is the horse remember) and gazed at the distant mountains. I am wondering if Victory is a girl horse cuz there is no KISSING before marriage Princess! Well anyway, the mountains remind the princess of the horizons that lay ahead of her life. She is enjoying the peace and quiet and then cue the alligator swimming in the moat below the bridge on which she stood. I am all like RUN princess there is a gator after you... however.. The gator can TALK and says good evening to the princess. (I am sorry but what the heck- a talking gator... God did not create gators to talk Old English!) The Alligator is all questioning her being alone. She says and I quote " I like to be alone. It gives me time to think and pray" The gator wants to know what she thinks about. She says her father says her life is precious and must be used wisely so she was considering how many things she hoped to do in her life and how she can best serve the kingdom, and how she can bring hope and joy to those who have none. The gator thinks she is ambitious and wise but that she is forgetting she lives in a castle and with her parents. The gator is right in saying she is sheltered and she does not have the knowledge nor the experience necessary to do the things of which she dreams.
The princess is all like "My father says I do" and the gator says the king is noble but he cannot be right about everything (OMG THAT IS NOT TRUE! A father is a spiritual leader! I no longer like this gator) the gator says the king is misguided and in the end, the princess is the one who will face the consequences of his unintentional yet serious mistakes. The princess asks what she should do and the gator says nothing as of yet but when the time comes, be ready to make your own decisions, or you will never survive in the real world (I like the gator- He seems to have a lot of real world knowledge) The first part ends with the princess feeling raindrops and taking Victory back to the stall and going inside the castle
My Thoughts- WOW! That is some crazy story.

Sarah's advice
The second part of the chapter is Sarah talking directly to the reader. She said, "Most princesses like to think about romance and she suspects that "you" are no exception. As a daughter of the King of Kings, your heavenly Father has only the very best in store for you. A true princess must not settle for anything less."
Sarah goes on to say that she knew many young ladies who were consumed with dating and thoughts about boyfriends, and thus wasted the years of their youth (ummm. Michelle Duggar she is talking about you). I guess following typical teenagers is really bad and they really miss out. On the other hand she has seen the joy of the Lord bring couples together and blessing them with beautiful marriages. There is a difference I guess... to make it short the girls put Jesus first in every area of their lives (J-O-Y). "Temptation in this area of boy/girl relationships is one of the biggest snares that the enemy uses to damage the lives and testimonies of Christian young people. Many lives have been destroyed. Many others have survived only with scars, pain and heartache." I true princess knows she has to be protected. That is not weakness or fear but courage. It requires courage to do things God's way. To wait for his timing, and to trust that He will bring you and your life partner together according to His perfect plan. It takes courage to obey when you do not understand.
Sarah says the best thing to do right now is to embrace specific safeguards of protection. She says EMBRACE. Many other ladies will TOLERATE what they consider "rules" or "laws" made by others but tolerating them is not enough; you have to make it on your own. It is your HEART- your own internal commitments before the Lord- that will make a difference. Apparently only those types of girls will escape temptation.
Okay now make a commitment to want the BEST in your future marriage because Sarah Mally says that is the best way to go. Even if it requires sacrifices. I guess marriage is a picture of our relationship with Jesus Christ- a good marriage is priceless. (How the heck can it be priceless if you gave up all your hopes and dreams to have one?)
Sarah gives the young girl some facts and statistics (she does not back them up with where she got the info) COUNTLESS young people are willing to forfeit the beautiful marriage God wants to give them in exchange for short-term thrills. She then asks two questions "If we could grasp how wonderful God's plan for us is, don't you think we'd be willing to wait? Don't you think we would purpose to enter into marriage pure rather than with emotional baggage and scares?" I guess I never thought about it that way... I mean I have seen how horrible Michelle Duggar has been in her life (dating till she was 15) and how pure and innocent her girls are. Of course I feel that way. Sarah then goes on and asks us all to remember our favorite storybook romance (come on I know you all have one) well I guess thinking that they are just a joke and that stuff like that never happens is Satan. Satan wants us to believe there are no happy ever afters- no happy marriages. She then quotes John 10:10. I guess when you observe the reckless way most young people live, you'd never know that deep down in their hearts they desire to one day have a wonderful marriage. They have lost site of the dream even though they still want it I guess. Hey I did not write the book Sarah Mally did. I am just giving you a summary :). I guess the young people with all their reckless living they have done a lot to destroy it(Way to go Michelle!). They then go on to claim that such a marriage is idealistic or impossible, but I guess in reality, they are simply unwilling to pay the price. "It is too hard for them to wait-- too hard to trust God. Okay I get it TRUST God, I bet we all could have a drinking game in how many times Sarah Mally says that in this book.
She does put in the disclaimer that your marriage will not actually be PERFECT (What the heck! I want a PERFECT MARRIAGE!) Okay, sorry about that Sarah says we live in a sinful world but we should choose to desire the very best marriage, and refuse to lower your standard or settle for average. I guess it is worth the sacrifice. And now for a commerical Break
There is also a short testimony about some 15-year-old girl and how her brother had this long list of what he wanted in a wife. Everyone laughed and said he had too many requirements and the girl did not exist. Well, low and behold he met Lori and they are perfect for one another. Sarah says stories like that are powerful because it shows how powerful and awesome God is. So START TODAY. RIGHT NOW. Commit to waiting for God to do all the work. You are first on his list. Ha-ha
Okay we now answer the question "What is Purity?" I guess there are two kinds of purity because some girls have already made mistakes. First there is INNOCENT, or CLEAN purity (see the Duggar girls or a white cloth, which has never been, dirty or contaminated- it is PURE). There is the WASHED kind of purity (See Michelle Duggar or something was dirty, but it has been washed, it has been cleansed (a white rage that has clean up a filthy mess) She then quotes II Cor. 5:17 and Proverbs 20:9 oh and Romans 3:23 and Is. 1:18. In other words purity is offered to ANYONE- no matter what your past mistakes. Okay as you read this LONG summary Satan AKA the enemy might try to discourage you and say it is too late. Well do not listen to him Satan is a LOSER. Do not believe his lies. It is never too late to turn to the LORD and experience the joy, peace and abundant lifer he offers. Sarah says if I think it is just too late for me she encourages me (the reader) to skip ahead to pages 194-198. This is chapter 10 Reserved for One. I am not going to because I think I am innocent and pure in Gods eyes.
I guess Sarah says God is not only calling me to purity but Radiant Purity. Now you may be wondering what is radiant purity? Sarah believe it is INWARD purity is OUTWARDLY visible. "It's seen in our countenance. It is seen in our eyes. It is seen by our joy. It is seen as we boldly take a stand- not just "going along" with this idea of purity, but excitedly making it known to others. It is not just INNOCENCE but the commitments, convictions, and attitudes that maintain innocence and that proclaim it to others." Believe Sarah, radiant purity is noticed by the world, and it will lead others to follow the same path!
Now I wish I was done but I have to remind you that while you read my summaries that Sarah Mally believes you already follow the following guidelines. Otherwise too bad you will be confused
1. The Bible is the inspired Word of God and should govern every area of our lives.
2. There is a problem with boy/girl relationships in our society. In this book I don't think it it's necessary to go into detail about the sin and devastation happening in many lives around us, but I'm making the assumption that you agree there is a problem. The world's approach to relationships isn't working very well. Unhappy marriages, divorce, and broken, hurting families are not the way God intends things to be.
3. We want something different. I'm writing to young ladies who are seeking the Lord with all their heart and who genuinely desire God's best. For this reason, I'm going to be courageous and honest as I share what I have observed and learned. Some things that I encourage you to consider may not be easy, but because I believe you are sincerely longing for God's very best way, I have confidence that you are not afraid to take the narrow road, to stand for righteousness, and to put Jesus first--even when it is hard.
She goes on to say the benefits of parents and their help. Even if a child comes from a hurting family or from a one-parent household or even if a parent is not Christian -God still will help and listen (that’s good to know I guess).
Sarah then gives the reader homework- a suggested memory verse:
"Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honor to Him: for the marriage of the Lamb is come, and his wife hath made herself ready" (Revelation 19:7)

And all I can say is AMEN! I hope you enjoyed my long summary- again I do this not only to help those who don't have the book to know what is all about but to snark.
I have to say I got my material from Before You Meet Prince Charming by Sarah Mally 2007 Tomorrow's Forefathers, Inc Iowa- I'm not trying to copy write or nothing I'm quoting the source.

The Beginning

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Hi! I'm going to give you a review on Jill Duggars favorite book. I'm sure all the other Duggar sisters enjoy it also. I don't know if Joy-Anna has yet had the pleasure but since she is almost 12 I'm sure she will be reading it soon...
First a bit about me. I'm a 32 year old single female. I was born and raised Catholic and still follow that faith. I am not a fudie and I believe this book is pretty much geared toward them.
I was shocked at how many people liked this book but they all are Fudies (AKA Fundamentalists) also so, who knows...
Sarah Mally is the author and she starts the book out thanking everyone BUT God and if she has a husband, I wouldn't know since she never says "My wonderful Husband____" like Michelle Duggar does every week on 18 Kids and Counting... She thanks her dad first then her Mom... and everyone else who helped edit and draw the pictures. The pictures from what I can see are simple. I'm not an artist but I'm sure someone in the 7th grade could draw it too. I have to remind myself most girls who are reading this are homeschooled... keep that in mind also.
Well Sarah Mally has a problem... (this is in Note From the Author) it seems that over that last 8 or 9 years her dad and her have talked about purity and she gets a lot of questions from other mothers on the topic. They want book suggestions and Sarah well she could give them some but they are mostly on romance and purity. She really had a difficult time recommending a book to younger girls who are pure and protected- all the other books she has read seem to be written to young people who have already made mistakes (AKA someone kissed and/or dated before being married. It does not necessarily mean they had sex).
Sarah also makes a note to the lover of Old English: it is not her intent to duplicate proper Old English. So in other words bear with her inconsistencies and incomplete usage, for it is her desire to give only an Old English flavor. In other words, she didn't want to do any research on Old English when writing the story... because that might be too much work (???) I'm adding the last part. Please be aware I will snark most of this book I’m only on the note from the author and I already am...
She also suggests that the parents may want to read this book together with their young daughter and discuss each chapter with her. It is also recommended for small group Bible studies, Sunday school classes and Bright Lights groups (If you’re a Duggar fan I'm sure it is used around the homeschool dining room table or the church of the holy basement.)
She tells the reader, "May the Lord bless you richly as you seek God's very best and as you purpose to shine with radiant purity.
So here is how I want to do this. I will read a chapter or two a day. Each chapter will be on a separate page. I am thinking you can snark on it at TWOP or the Discovery Health website forum. You can also snark on it here at the forum I made since I don't want TWOP to be mad at me :)
Well Enjoy- I know I might.
***Disclaimer- I typed all this quick and I am apologize for grammar mistakes. I would have loved to submit it like an English class paper but it is summer. I just wanted to pre-warn you.

The Table of Contents...
1. Desire the Very Best Marriage
2. Dangers with the Dating System
3. Guard Your Heart
4. Could He be the One?
5. Romantic Dreams
6. When God says Wait
7. How Parents Can Help
8. Have a Life Purpose Bigger than Marriage
9. Dreams Must Die
10. Reserved for One
11. Delighting in the Lord
12. Know that God Arranges Marriages
Epiloge
How to Become a Princess
*** Information on this blog was take from Before You Meet Prince Charming by Sarah Mally and my own self :)

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2009-06-29T21:01:00.000-07:00

Hey Everyone!

I'm glad you all came to read my reviews. i will try to post them as soon as i can. I presonally am having a hard time reading this book because it is hard for me to understgand how any young girl or woman could feel any of this stuff is "right". Well thanks so much again. Enjoy!